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Naboulove power series: 2-Be N-POWERED BECAUSE YOU ARE POWER FULL

Ok Naboulove tagline is normally “Be empowered because you are powerful” I just changed the empowered by N-powered & powerful to power full . If I dared I would have written power filled…I dared. *SMILE

So what is “to empower” ? In the various definition I read it is described as “A management practice of sharing information, rewards, and power with employees “  or “the process of enabling or authorizing an individual to think, behave, take action, and control work” . From the UN’s Guidelines to Women’s Empowerment ,Women’s empowerment is :

-Sense OF Self Worth as a woman

-The right to choose

– Access to resources & opportunities

-Control over their own lives at home & within the society

-Influential in achieving social justice within their nations & at the international level

I love taking my grandmother as an example : if she managed to be a financially independent Fulani woman in the Senegal  40’s what could possibly stop me now? Just wondering… But you will be surprised by my views on empowerment. Yes a stay at home mum can be more empowered than a high executive lady Boss. Unlike what can be thought some women make that conscious choice & they still have a voice in their couple without feeling used & abused. With new technologies many women operate home based business & are achieving some sort of financial independence that help them sustain to their basic needs. But anyway beside that general notion of empowerment , I believe that we need to “emancipate ourselves from mental slavery” to be in a  full process of empowerment. So what makes one power -fully  power filled and N-POWERED?

1- Do you say No or Yes when you really feel it & want it or do you just say it to please the crowd? Next time you say yes or no just think before you speak. The choice is yours.

2- Don’t be afraid to show your vulnerability,  you are just being human with strengths & weaknesses . Cry without shame & let that pain Go & let God, he is in control.

3-  Expressing your pain & sorrow gives you a power , a sensitivity ,a humanity. Since you have had the strength to let God you become Fearless & totally Faithfull. There is so much power in faith.

4- Embrace change wherever it comes from, learn to integrate it as an opportunity to upgrade yourself physically, spiritually, Emotionally. So don’t be afraid when you are out of your comfort zone. What doesn’t kill you will make you stronger.

5-Say it out loud the way you believe it, fight for your truth, be real. Really real. Just try do things for yourself without seeking  approval. You were born for a mission so open your wings & start flying because you can fly.

6- Be your sisters’ keeper, lend a hand to other women. Don’t judge until you wear her shoes. Respect differences, you are not more powerful because you carry a designer bag , have a rich husband or hold a MBA. Our sisters who carry heavy loads from dawn to dusk to guaranty a loaf of bread to their kids or sell puff puffs on the road side are much more courageous than us. Be open to those who are different from you. Be humble enough to learn , stop looking down. Praise the successful, support the mislead & try to make constructive critics. Or STFU (shut the fuck up –yeah I said it). There is power in appreciation. It shows you love yourself enough to love others. Envy is just a manifestation of low self esteem & self hate. If you didn’t know now you do…

7-Try to  Connect positively around you. Share your smile, your sorrows, your joys, your pains , your cause, your knowledge, your blessings. Be generous with your emotions & your experience. Your mistakes might help somebody. Sharing is caring. Connecting is strengthening. Connect, Communicate, Care.

8- Cultivate your inner Harmony– by doing what you can with what you have: its called contentment & start chasing procrastination with action by doing what you have to do when you have to do it. Hmm reminder to self.*Sigh

9- Nurture Love love & love. Let people deal with the rest :their insecurities, negativity & their own luggage. Step up & feel secure to love.

10-Stop apologizing for being you. Just stand up because you are a Powerfully power filled  & powerful sister, mother, daughter, wife, friend, woman.

“Be N-powered Because you are Power Full”

©Naboulove

Dear Nafissatou,

I am soo sorry for you as a sister in wonanhood, an african sister and a fulani sister. I feel your pain, your shame and your hate. And my words are how I express my wrath. Thanks for having raised your voice to condemn the one who raped your dignity and your integrity because when u left your village as a widow with your 2 year old daughter, you were still a teenager . With your willpower and faith in Allah the almighty you made it to America to give ur child a better life. My dear sister u hv spoken for the million women in the world who keep their voices low in front of their oppressors and for that you will be abundantly rewarded. Today my sister U might be regretting it because raised as a fulani you were not interested in any publicity but just looking for justice. We your sisters from around the world we support you morally & emotionally because it is about us in this story. Us abused, raped , beaten and silenced because of the lack of rights. Thanks Nafissatou for having proven to the world that a woman’s body is her temple and that No man had the right to disrespect it by force without having to pay the price. Say Alhamdullilahi my sister because if it had happened in the heart of Africa no one would have given you credit. Alhamdllilahi for you are a hard working honest woman living in America where no one can play or disrespects a womans body without being accountable for it.
It is about your pain my sister, it is about your sutura, your dignity. Close your ears Nafissatou , because it is only about you and your emotions, nobody else. So keep your faith and hope, because we women of the world are behind you, supporting you with our prayers, our words, our strenght. United we stand my sister. It is not about colors like america tend to love disgressing towards racial issues. It is about womanhood and the choice to say No even to a husband in a marital bed. It is about womanhood beaten each day in the lstreets of the world by men stronger and hateful. It is about Motherhood, a strong woman u are Nafissatou raised as a Muslim and with the fulani values, and proudly working to take care of your daughter.
So Nafissatou you are neither lonely or alone because we are all here with you. Because it is all about you and nobody else.
Jaraama

Djelika Sow
Aka
Nabou Fall
Aka Naboulove
Proud granddaughter of Bigue Diallo