Archives du mot-clé rape

It’s time to Break the Silence

“An injustice to one is an injustice to all” Martin Luther King

Every day as African women we complain about electricity, water, this & that but do we think about the thousands of women raped in the Eastern part of DRC where rape has become a weapon -.

Let’s forget about endless studies & statistics. From the comfort of our homes & daily routine, let’s remember the Francoise, Honorine, Marie, mothers, sisters , girls who only aspired to live a normal life. But one day, their villages & homes got attacked by heinous armed gangs. Militias? Militaries? Pro-governments? Rebels? One thing is sure they are heartless barbarians who threaten, rape & kill blindly regardless of age. I remember the testimony of an 80 years old raped by 10, 15 men. She couldn’t remember…She was left for dead on the roadside, like an animal. To her own regrets, she had survived to the horror. Women are raped & beaten then kept prisoners as slave sex for an indeterminate period of time. « Johnny mad Dog »  & « Blood Diamonds»  are not just fiction movies. The horror happened for real in Sierra Leone, Liberia & happens everyday in DRC. When I see Hollywood stars & International figures like : Hilary Clinton, Margot Wallstrom, Ben Affleck, Charlize Theron, Rosario Dawson, etc. who travel regularly to the Eastern Part of Congo in Kivu to give their support to Vday’s action in that region I wonder where is the African sisterhood ? Vday , an NGO created by Eve Ensler the author of Vagina Monologue,  opened the City of Joy in Bukavu. The first class of women trained, emotionally & physically rebuilt graduated in January 2012.

«In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends. »Martin Luther King Jr

Women of Africa, women of the world, we are all guilty. I am not an activist or an expert on the topic but I can’t go on pretending nothing is happening. Maybe I am just writing to share my guilt, to stop behaving as  if  the rapes happening on my land were none of my business. The mineral malediction is well documented by expert reports analyzing deeply the consequences of Rwandan War in the Congo. What I want to emphasize here is the system where rapists don’t pay for their crimes. As of today, only 5% have been judged[1]…Many of them are free involved in all kinds of traffic. Should we continue pretending all is well. No. It is time for us to at least acknowledge  the facts & raise awareness around us. Congo might not be your country but Africa is our continent. Let’s break the silence sisters. Worst is when a study states that  40% of the rapists are civilians[2]. Can our conscious stay clear when these barbaric acts are condemned from London to Sidney & Washington to Geneva? We are Africans. We must care. We must condemn. At least.

However, I feel bad when I look back & think about my answer to people whenever I tell them I live in DRC. I usually answer carelessly with a confident  smile  « Oh everything is fine in Kinshasa … How can I say “It’s fine” when within the borders of the country I live in, 48 women[3]  are being raped each hour. The country has been sadly named “World Capital of Rape”. And these statistics are more than figures. They are broken lives, women who live with self-hatred. Wives, sisters, daughters, mothers rejected  by their communities. Fates destroyed by men’s madness. …

While doing researches what worried me the most is the growth of that gangrene within the Congolese society. Studies have shown that women in urban areas are more & more victims of rapists who happen to be a husband, a boyfriend, a neighbor, a relative[4]

 « What we don’t say becomes a secret, and secrets often create shame and fear and myths.». Eve Ensler

Fortunately some people like  Mrs Christine Schuler de Schryver  Manager of the City of Joy in Bukavu &Dr  Mukwege  from Panzi Hospital devoted their lives to save women hurt in their flesh & soul. Despite adversity & harsh conditions, these Congolese invested a lot of energy to restore them psychologically, morally & emotionally. Their joint efforts have given hope to many women who were more like zombies upon their arrival. The question is: are African women safe in their countries?  Beyond the gender issues , how secure is an African woman in a conflict zone?

«To call the women  » the weaker sex  » is a defamation; it is the injustice of the man to the woman. If the nonviolence is the law of the humanity, the future belongs to women.»Gandhi

« What I witnessed in Congo has shattered and changed me forever. I will never be the same. None of us should ever be the same.. » Eve Ensler

Next year, on march 8th, when we will celebrate International women’s day, let’s remember the basics : That day is to remember & claim women’s rights ,not just a get together. Share with your sisters the story of the 400.000 women that have already been raped in Democratic Republic of Congo. Remember  the 1152 that will be raped[5] on that day… Raise your voice so that our sisters, daughters, mothers & grandmothers can walk without fear & sleep peacefully. Tomorrow, anyone of us could be a victim.

©Naboulove (originally published in French  Kabibi Magazine in DRC 2012)

[1] Vday.org

[2] Etude Oxfam/Harvard initiative humanitaire 2010

[3]AJPH avec l’ International Food Policy Research Institute Stony Brook University New York, World Bank, partially funded by US Government

[4] ”American journal of public health” Study states that   22.5%  of the rapes within the sample was done either by a husband or an intimate partner not by soldiers or rebels

The Ugly menace of Rape in our society By Tunde Adeleye

In light of the recent armed robbery attack, and alleged raping of some of the 42 students of the Holy Rosary College, of Enugu state, around the Oke-Odo end of Sagamu-Benin Expressway during the Easter, it again underscores the disturbing recurring crimes prevalent in our society.

The issue of rape in Nigeria has long been a problematic one. Unfortunately for many years, it has been a trend which has continued unabated due to the ineffectual laws to hand out tougher and harsher prison sentences to perpetrators of such crimes in our society.

Little wonder that ongoing sexual abuse continues to be rampant in homes, schools and in the streets (the victims as young as 9 years old and the vile act usually committed by people the victims know and trust), many of which are unreported to the police giving the modicum amount of seriousness the case will receive.

On the surface, the sporadic events highlighting the issue of rape particularly when many girls are involved, brings to the fore a more deeper understanding of the sickening act.

With the way I view it, the police are powerless to stop the wave of attacks. Even the government, state or Federal seem reluctant to wage a relentless war on rapists, moreso when a « big man » with a big reputation is the perpetrator.

Hence, if we expect our legislators in the Nigerian National Assembly to pass laws to combat this crime, we will be bitterly disappointed to find out that it will amount to nothing.

Evidently, in Nigeria, rape is often not adjudged as a serious crime that warrants immediate judicial intervention (if any) and the eventual incarceration of the perpetrator of the crime. The case is simply swept under the carpet. No forensics done on the victim or the alledged perpetrator.
Even if the testimony of the victim is admitted, it is unlikely to see the light of day. The victim may even end up been chided for dressing too loosely to have aroused the sexual interest of the perpetrator.
Case closed, never to be reopened again regardless of any new evidence.
Be that as it may, rape, when it happens, is not necessarily about men exercising power over their powerless female victims. Sometimes it is beyond that, and altogether something that defies logic and human comprehension.

Since that is the case, it is plausible to state that it is a demonic activity and an uncontrollable force that has taken over the whole being of the perpetrator of the crime.

Haven’t we heard countless number of cases of incest, between father and daughter – mostly for ritualistic purposes to amass wealth? Undoubtedly it is a repulsive act that, even the daughter who is the victim, may not be aware of, having been subjected to incantations which would rob her memory of the sexual act.

The act may or may not be privy to
the wife of the perpetrator. In all, the victim may never have the opportunity to marry, as potential male suitors would be put off for one reason or the another, with the girl unable to figure out the reason behind such rejections

Notwithstanding her present state of mind, whether conscious or unconscious, the psychological trauma will be heavily weighted and engraved on the minds of the affected victims for life. Only a sustained dose of many years of counseling for the victims, is ever likely to be a source of treatment to overcome or alleviate such deep rooted traumas.

In many rape cases, such as the documented rape story, and orgy killings,
(Remember the 50 hapless people that were forced to lie down on the floor at gun point, and trampled upon by a luxurious bus on the Benin-Ore some years back?)
such occurrences are unquestionably necessitated by the need to fuel and re-fuel the demonic sacrifices for which the stupendous wealth of the so called « big men » in our society is derived from.
And yes, it is unmistakably true that this assertion unfortunately includes
some of the lawmakers you would expect to effect a real change in our society by enacting and enforcing laws that protects the human rights – particularly those of women and children – life, property, etc.
Undeniably, we live in a wicked world, where love, respect and kindless is fast becoming a rare commodity. It is at its lowest ebb. In fact, it is taking society back to the barbarian dark ages where the sanctity of live means nothing to anyone anymore.
Regardless, this is not to suggest that we should give up on the fight against societal ills. We simply need to recognize that majority of societal ills are perpetrated by sick individuals who have mortgaged their souls to the devil. Making a concerted effort to engage these people is akin to using a feather to kill a poisonous reptile.

No doubt, activism through NGO’s and the media is one way to go about it. This would merely bring it to the limelight. In the main, effective laws to stem the incessant attacks, as well as prosecute sexual offenders is another major step in the right direction that needs to be taken.

However, effective prayers to arrest the lamentable trend of crimes in our society still holds the key. We delude ourselves if we think otherwise.

Tunde  Adeleye

WAKE UP CALL

STOP VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN DAY

Being neither a feminist nor an activist of any sort,however,  I have been touched in my flesh,by the many abuses endured by women in my country of adoption:Democratic Republic of Congo. Too much hate, abuse, rape, and torture of all sorts are comitted against women by so called freedom fighters. Living in Kinshasa, I was never confronted personnally to any case but in the light of the recent atrocious event in Walikale in the eastern part, I lost it completely. I was on a trip abroad when watching CNN I heard the news that day of last august.Over 200 women were raped by Militias. This time the whole world aknowledged the drama and nightmare taking place since 1997 in the Eastern Part of the DR Congo. As I got back in Kinshasa, I saw older women testifying how they have been raped by 5,6,7 or more men. Why? Facing all the pain and hurt women are going through during conflicts, I got hit by a simple question: how can I make a difference? it is happening just next door. I went further, read more and discovered that another region Katanga was the scenery of child abuse and could be sadly nomitated as the world capital of incest. I will not bore you with figures, graphs and statistics but my request here is : should we continue staying in our comfort zone without trying to make a difference? Or should we look around as responsible men and women and identify the abuses around us in order to contribute? Thus having had a very interesting debate with some of my sisters from Northern Nigeria, I found out about some terrible abuse made to women, girls andd children covered up in the name of culture. So once again dear readers , open your eyes and your ears, People in N.G.O’s are not crazy or senseless, they are just sensible men and women trying to give a meaning to their lives by making a difference. And they is nothing such as a small gesture. If people living in New York, London or Stockholm do make a difference by contributing to many causes in Africa, why cant we?

Naboulove

WE ARE QUEENS.

Women of the World
Women of the World

                From Nefertiti to Cleopatra all the Legendary Beauty Queens find their origin in Africa. King Solomon was ready to give the world to Makeda the Queen of Sheba another Woman of substance and described as the Epithom of Beauty. In our African culture – Black Culture at large – , the woman is the mother, the rock of the family, the guardian of our customs and keeper of our rituals. A woman is always a Mother, whether she gave birth or not, she has compassion and faith, she is always giving and sharing. We share our pain together, we raise children , we nurse the sicknesses of our society. As privileged women with a choice to work or not, to study or not , to marry or not, to love or not, we sometimes forget how blessed we can be when100 Millions women & girls are affected by female circumcision in the world. Some Women and young girls are used as sex slaves by cruel Warlords and are at the Mercy of Aids and other deadly diseases. Rape is commonly used in Regions where there are permanent conflicts like the Eastern part of Democratic Republic of Congo. I could go on and on about the various abuses experienced daily by our sisters,mothers,daughters but to them i want to say that no matter how deep they have been affected in their flesh and intimacy, they should never forget that they remain Queens in our eyes. And we dont forget them… So sisters NabouLove wishes you a happy International Woman’s Day. My Sisters, Keep your heads up no matter what: WE ARE STRONG BLACK WOMEN AND WE ARE QUEENS .

by NabouLove