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Affirm Your Sexiness

What makes likes of Genevieve Nnaji, Beyonce Knowles, Iman and even the ordinary next door girl  look sexy in the eyes of the world? Is it their looks, the way they dress, they perfect body or a whole? Be reassured ladies, sexy has nothing to do with perfect beauty and doesn’t relate to being dressed in mini skirt with half of your boobs coming out of your top .You envy that colleague of yours because men at work follow her with their eyes every time she is around. And she is not the epitome of beauty she is neither slim nor have half of her body in sight! Being sexy is in the way you talk , walk, smile, glance. It is an attitude that you can acquire and develop. So don’t give up and continue reading!
By Observing, watching, discussing and asking around, I have compiled the following guideline that might help you reveal the sexiness in you:
1-Carry yourself with confidence, feel like Miss Universe when you walk, breathe in and forget about the fact that you are short, overweight or not as pretty as your sister. Just feel good inside, because you are yourself  and nobody  can take that away from you. Confidence – I didn’t say arrogance- is a head turner and will make you hot, whereas arrogance will make you cheap even if you are indeed Miss Universe.
2-Work on your posture Madam! Keep your back straight, your tummy in, your head up. No matter what hold on to your posture.
3-Smile inside and bring it on your face. I didn’t say laugh out loud. A heartfelt, sincere ,slightly naughty smile is attractive and brings out your charisma.
4-Cultivate the way you look at people. Work on your magnetic glance by making subtle eye contact and keeping a part of your mystery. Your eyes must be the most expressive part of your body without saying it all. Send mixed messages. Even if u r not into make-up, put khol or eyeliner and mascara to create and emphasize an enigmatic you.
5-Have a style of your own, Choose bright  and sexy colors like pink and red – they always compliment dark complexion- and always keep it as simple as possible –over accessorizing you might end up looking like a Christmas tree-. Make sure you have a hairstyle that suits you and when you get dressed don’t wear anything that doesn’t work with your body figure! sexy is not about being half naked so don’t be vulgar. Remember it’s about style, not fashion.
6-Wear beautiful lingerie to feel sexy for yourself. Whether you are into lace, silk or cotton, indulge yourself with the best just to please your body. It will make a huge difference in the way you feel.
7-wearing a ton of make-up and looking like a Picasso painting is everything but sexy. Apart from your eyes, your lips are essential to your sexiness. Choose a color that goes with your complexion and invest in a gloss that will always keep them inviting. Impeccably manicured nails as well as a flawless skin will add a lot to your sex appeal.
8-Don’t be to available and avoid the African spot lights. You are not a star so don’t behave like one and avoid being the one who doesn’t miss out a party. Cultivate the mystery around your whereabouts and like everything rare increase your market value.*Wink
9-Improve your personality: be real, genuinely helpful, caring ,polite and just friendly enough with everyone around without overdoing it. A nice woman is so sexy to be with.

10- Cease every opportunity to unleash your feminity. Dare to be a woman who needs and seeks assistance and help from others. Revealing your fragility,  will attract many super heroes around ready to come rescue you or help you.
11-Choose a fragrance that suits you. A classic I don’t need to develop.
12-Watch yourself in a mirror and affirm : “I am sexy “. If you are not convinced , who could you convince?

13- Reverse all the negative image you had of yourself: replace I am fat with I am voluptuous, I am short by I am delicate and so on… I am sure you feel better already. If you think your lips are big or your nose is ugly, think about them as winning features that will add sex appeal as long as you learn to love them.

14-Enough said, go out and start now and check all those males eyeing at your sexy self.

« Be empowered because you are powerful »

©Naboulove

Make Everyday Valentine …

How? What?When? Where?

You wonder what the hell is she talking about? Repeating that old serenade … « Déjà Vu » indeed but be patient & continue reading… Valentine has really become a phenomenom in French Speaking African countries in the last 15 years. And as the rest of the world it has become a very effective Marketing tool -I have used it myself when I was a Marketing exec in the Telco Industry-. So it is positive in the sales, business outcome & in my humble opinion it is not negative to the « love & romance » issues. Right folks I didn’t say it is positive to the « Love & Romance » issue… So give me a chance to develop my views here:
1-It is positive to business as it’s a day where lovers buy presents to each others or treat themselves to a special dinner , a card, a box of chocolate, etc.
2-It is not negative to « Love & Romance » issues as it is a « special » day to show your beloved how much he/she counts by treating him/her differently..

MY POINT IS : DO YOU NEED A SPECIAL DAY TO TREAT YOUR BELOVED « SPECIALLY », TO SHOW HIM/HER HOW MUCH HE/SHE COUNTS FOR YOU?

As a matter of fact , YOU DON’T… SO USE & ABUSE OF THE VALENTINE CONCEPT, TO MAKE EVERYDAY VALENTINE TO YOUR LOVED ONES…

NEVERTHELESS I WISH YOU A HAPPY LOVE DAY AND SEE BEYOND THE MARKETING TO MAKE EACH MOMENT OF SHARED LOVE A SPECIAL TIME…

NABOULOVE

Women Have Become Too Easy by JC Mande

Times have changed
I receive a lot of e-mail from women asking the same question Stacy poses. So I finally decided to give my take on the subject. But before I begin, allow me to stress that I’m not passing judgment on women, nor am I saying that women shouldn’t enjoy themselves sexually. Hey, I’m enjoying the abundant supply of women too. The following explains how most men feel, and why some of us can’t handle the truth.

An object that has value is worshipped, respected, cherished, and shared with very few deserving people. As soon as you start sharing that object with anyone and without care, the object starts to lose value. The more people use the object, the more it depreciates and the less bargaining power it has: this is a plain psychological fact of life.

Most women don’t realize the importance men place on a woman’s promiscuity. Women think that because men don’t care about how many women they’ve slept with, they won’t care about how many men their woman has slept with. But the reality is that most men (those looking for a serious relationship and not a one-night stand) do place great value on a woman’s sexual restraint.

There was a time when many women cherished their bodies much like a sacred temple. Where only a noble man , one who respected and loved her, had access to her body.

But over time, it seems that women have failed to realize the important role their sexuality plays in finding a long-term mate. Thanks to the women’s movement, women are so busy trying to compete with men — including in the sex department — that they fail to realize the consequences of their actions.

Today, it seems that women are the ones who are collecting notches on their Prada belts by giving their bodies away too easily. But if women themselves don’t value their bodies like they used to, why should men?

Some women will argue that if men have the right to sleep around, so should women. But I ask only one question: If women adamantly believe this, then why is it that when faced with the question, « How many men have you slept with? », most women who have slept around with truckloads of men always lie?

Some women will rationalize that they must do so because men can’t handle the truth. But if this is the case, why don’t women let men decide for themselves if they can or can’t handle it? Why do women need to lie to protect men’s egos? I think women lie to protect themselves — rather than men — because if it’s not shame or regret that’s making you hold your tongue, then the potentially dire consequences of the truth surely are.

The power of a woman’s sexuality

Women have sexual propositions directly or indirectly thrown at them every single day. Because of this abundant supply of penis, women have the final decision to act on or ignore such propositions, and the men looking for long-term mates fear this.

Men, on the other hand, don’t necessarily have women on bended knee with diamond rings and gold bracelets, so they pretty much take it when they can. Maybe this is one of the reasons why men, unlike women, find it so hard to resist the advancements of the opposite sex.

You see, men know how hard it is to control themselves. Think about it for a moment: how many times have you heard men say, « Gee, if I was a woman, I’d be getting laid every day? »

Men recognize the power of a woman’s sexuality. In turn, men appreciate and place great value on women who can control themselves and demonstrate a certain degree of sexual discipline because most men certainly can’t.

If a woman can show men that she is honest, loyal, trustworthy, and sexually responsible, then she will have the most powerful weapon to attract men. If, on the other hand, a woman abuses her sexual power with many men, it will backfire on her. Unfortunately, women only realize this after they’ve had their « women’s movement fun, » when it’s too late and the only choice they have is to lie.

it’s not too late… is it?

Women need to realize that their bodies are temples — or at least men like to think so — and that they shouldn’t be shared with any Tom, Dick or Harry. Once a woman realizes this, three things will happen:

1. She’ll appreciate herself a lot more, and in turn the man will gain more respect for her and realize that he has a valuable treasure.

2. The man who had to work hard and commit in order to bed a woman will appreciate her more. After all, time was invested in her.

3. The sex will be brought to a whole new passionate level when she finally makes love to the man who fought for her — by being patient.

Today too many people — including myself — place too much importance on sex. This explains why so many marriages don’t work. People base their whole relationship on sex and don’t realize that when the passion disappears, and the honeymoon phase dies down, there is nothing left but each other’s flaws.

©JC Mande

ADVICE 1-50…According to BFP! Just some common sense, for finding common ground

Breathtakingly Fine Possibilities, a brutha who loves the sistas, a guide to the sistas to improve their love life , enjoy!!!

alright, sistas! he’s my top 50! i think this is a cool stopping point. next, i might do ‘advice for the bruhs’, but we’ll see.

i added 42 and 44 (which were missing), along with 48 thru 50! i’m interested in hearing your feedback. thanks for taking the time to indulge my attempt at sharing a bit of who i am through these words.

#1: Sure, having more male friends than female friends might be less drama, but it’s also probably the reason you’re still single. ;). Trust me when I say that a woman with too many males is very not sexy!!! TRUST ME!!! I’m a MAN, so i know how we feel about a woman with a lot of male friends. we’ll fuck her, but we’ll never totally give her our heart because we always feel in the back of our minds that she’s fucked all of her male friends!! …and i used the word ‘fuck/fucked’ purposely! 😉

#2: Hairy legs are NOT sexy, nor is too much pubic hair. Hairy legs and pubic hair were badges of honor as an adolescent, to prove you reached puberty, but once you get 18 or 19 shave or wax that sh*t off please…LOL at least neaten it up a lil bit 😉 it’s not sexy, sis!!!

#3: If you smoke cigarettes or weed (and hopefully not crack) and your man doesn’t have an issue with it, then he doesn’t really give a f*ck about you. Any man who will sit idly by and watch the woman in his life destroy hers with nicotine and marijuana ain’t worth a good goddamn. F*ck him and find somebody who will make you leave that sh*t alone!

#4: A man who loves you, i mean really loves you, always listens! You may not think he hears but things that he deems important he makes a mental note of and will NEVER forget. If he forgets, it’s not important to him. If you tell him you giving him some coochie at 930am, on the second Tuesday of the month, does he forget? LOL. HELL NO!!! He always remembers things (and people) he deems important, remember that!

#5: Men tend to fall in love first, and we tend to fall hardest. Contrary to everything you’ve been led to believe, Black Men are the most sensitive, vulnerable, and emotionally insecure people on tha planet. Sure, there are those that are all about game, but that’s a incomplete man. A brotha, i mean a real black man, doesn’t take long to decide if a woman is worthy of his heart.

#6: You have to believe that you are even more FINE than your most loyal fan does. Whenever you allow someone else to recognize something in you, or about you, more than you do, you have relinquished the power you have over that thing. You no longer control the value of who you are. To be a star, the shine must begin in YOU!

#7:ADORE your people! Love all of humanity, but make your own people a priority. It’s an oxymoron to say you love all people, but hold disdain for your own people. Those people who look like you….think like you…who share a common history and culture with you. As a black person, your image of yourself is intimately connected to your image of black people. You CANNOT truly love yourself, if you don’t TRULY love black people. This is fundamentally important in relationships. To love a black man, you have to love his reflection, which is you!

more advice…(8-10) updated 4/17

#8…become a master of KEGEL exercises! I don’t care how pretty you or your booty is, how fine you think you are, or how good you think you can cook…if your Kegel game is tight, your man will be your best friend in the world!!! don’t know what ‘kegels’ are? to quote Rudy Ray Moore, they are the ‘grippers in your pussy’ 😉

#9…if you’ve been in a sexual situation with more than one man at a time (more than one woman is ok…LOL)…please don’t let your man find out. I don’t care if it was one time, and you were drunk, and it was 20 years ago…don’t let your current man find out. Trust me, it won’t turn out good!

#10…if a boyfriend or some dick on the side has taken a photo of you, OR you’re taken a camera phone pic of yourself naked…or giving someone a blow job (or licking a woman’s coochie…spreading your coochie lips…or having sex, etc…ME (and about a million other men) have probably seen them on one of many adult message boards on the ‘net. be careful who your trust your coochie with!!!!

more advice…(11-15) updated on 4/19

#11:…you have to HELP a man come to a decision on something, not force him. you have to give him ownership of the decision, rather than posing an ultimatum that forces him to agree to something you demand. the one thing that a black man in this society feels he still has control over is his thoughts and actions in his relationships. once you take that from him, he’s no longer a man!

#12:…there’s NEVER too much spit!, ladies! do i even have to say anything else about this one? LOL

#13:…keep a CLEAN HOUSE!! this actually might be the most important of all the advice (besides Kegels and spit, of course…LOL). especially if his mom always kept a clean house, and you DON’T? it may never come up, and he may never utter a word to you about it, but trust me, he’s thinking about it! trust me, there’s nothing sexy about a nasty ass house! word up!!! just as a woman looks for some of the traits of her father in her man, or if her father wasn’t there, she tries to replace some of the things she missed from not having a father around in her man, it’s the same for a man and his mother. a man’s mother is his PROTOTYPE of what a woman should be, and if he has a good relationship with his mom, he’s gonna want to see similar traits in his woman/wife, and ultimately the mother of his children. you shouldn’t try to take the place of his mother, but understand what that mother IDEAL he has looks like, and you want to always be aware of it.

#14:…always believe in his dream. we tend to think women are the ones who always need encouragement and emotional support, but like i said in #5, a man is far more emotionally sensitive and vulnerable that a woman will EVER be. when a man has a dream, some of his boys are gonna make fun of it, talk shit about it, or just not understand it, but as his woman, you HAVE TO understand. you have to let him know that even if no one else understands, you do! that doesn’t mean co-signing his ass on some bullshit that might leave the family bankrupt or in jail, but it does mean knowing what’s just fly by night shit, and the shit that he’s willing to die for! all women know what’s really important to men. you know…and you have to let him know that you know. …and don’t force him to do it, but help him find his way to fulfilling that dream.

#15….FUCK STEVE HARVEY!!! LOL while i appreciate some of the advice in Steve’s book, don’t ever NOT think like a lady. you’re a lady, so think like one! men and women have different energies, so we’ll never be able to think like the other, or fully appreciate what’s going on in the other’s mind, so don’t try to out-think your mate. there are no rules in when it comes to emotions. no two relationships are the same, so there’s no formula to guarantee you what will or will not work. my advice is to just THINK, and all the other shit will take care of itself!

ok, my sistas…got a couple more for your consideration.

#16…good pussy is not enough! i know it seems like all men are primarily concerned with hittin the ass, but believe it or not we want and need more than that from you. we need you to stimulate our spirits, as well as our loins! 🙂 we need you to inspire us to want to become better people for you. a woman who’s love and inspiration can convince a man to be better for her, is a keeper.

#17..don’t place more value on the relationship than you place value on your own integrity. Don’t be willing to do ‘whatever’ it takes to make a relationship work. Know your limits and make them known UP FRONT! If you sacrifice too much of who you are to accommodate all of who he is, the relationship loses balance, and thus compromising its full potential for growth

#18…believe in the POSSIBILITIES. have faith in the possibilities that an authentic spiritual connection with your mate can bring. far beyond a religious connection, i’m talking about the interconnectedness of your destinies, manifested through the actualization of divine perfection. expand your conception of what’s possible. think beyond what you know

#19…this dude ain’t the other dude. So, stop bringing your expectations and insecurities from your past relationships to this one. If you’re waiting for new dude to lick the coochie the same way the other dude did, you might as well go back to where you came from. Why assume this dude is gonna beat your ass cause the last dude did? This is a new possibility, so allow it to be.

#20…stop comparing your relationship to the relationships of your friends. Stop looking at someone else’s perceived ‘greener grass’, and spend some time fertilizing your own lawn. Just because her man does something you like, that doesn’t mean your man is required to do the same. If you want what her man does done to you, you need her man.

#21…get your OWN f*ckin’ man! Why would you want to try to ‘take’ a man from someone and then expect him to be faithful to you? Actually, most women who claim to like their girl’s man, don’t want them because they need the man, they do it to prove they can take the man. It’s an attempt to boost the ego of a woman who actually has very low self-esteem and an even lower sense of self-worth.

#22…be a porn star, at least in the privacy of your own home!! after you get over 21, all the sexual hang-ups get a little irritating. being a prude is the most unsexy thing in the world, and a guaranteed way for your relationship to have problems. i mean, you ain’t gotta do shit that’s physically impossible. don’t let him put something in your booty that you know can’t fit, but lil shit like giving head ain’t even considered freaky no more!! that shit stop being freaky in the 70s!!!!! find things you’re comfortable with, but if ordinary intercourse is all your willing to consent to, be prepared for the consequences.

#23….make up your damn mind!! all this back and forth, ambivalence and indecisiveness, is counterproductive. by the time the man you want comes into your life, you should already know he’s on his way, because you are already where you need to be, waiting for him. the universe gives us what we ask for through our actions and intentions, and most of us ask for the wrong things!

#24…a woman who REALLY knows sports, and doesn’t just watch it cause her man does, is quite sexy! learn to enjoy and BE KNOWLEDGEABLE about things that your man find enjoyable. if you’re not really into sports, don’t fake it because that will just piss him the fuck off…and you’re gonna sound stupid. if sports isn’t your thing, acknowledge it and keep it moving, so there will be no unrealistic expectations. but, if you really do enjoy it, and can watch the game with you man, and y’all can share the experience equally, you got your best friend sharing your bed!

#25…strive to be EXTRAORDINARY. in every aspect of your life, nor just your career, or as a parent, but in everything you do try to reach your fullest potential. make the pursuit of continual growth a priority in your life. Always want to be better tomorrow than you are right now, and make sure anyone you allow in your life has the same commitment to growth

#26…always smell good! the lotions and cremes and smell goods are a MUST!!! if i smell better than you, we got problems…and especially, ‘down there!’ i wanna take my time and enjoy myself when i take the plunge, not immediately look for the emergency exits. The hair smelling good, skin and feet nice and smooth…and mos def put some lotion on your booty! an ashy booty really sucks!

#27…know what you’re looking for! Be precise about the qualities you want in a man. Most of us don’t get what we want, because we never decide what that is. And the qualities on your list should be less about who you are, and more about who he is!

#28…What is HAPPILY SINGLE? I was never happy when I was single…LOL I mean I wasn’t pressed, but to me the absence of sadness or pain does not equate to happiness. I’m not one of those people who believes we don’t need a mate to be whole. To the contrary, I believe in the divine order and balance of the universe represented by a complementarity of masculine and feminine energy to create a divine perfection.

#29…allow yourself to be loved! a lot of us miss out on our truest loves because we are either AFRAID of what we think love is or are UNAWARE when authentic love presents itself to us. Be not only prepared, but also receptive when love comes, because it may not come back again. **DISCLAIMER: I DON’T BELIEVE IN ‘LOVE…but i know you do! 😉 **

#30…Knowing how to cook makes a woman a look a lot more muthafuckin’ fine! Sure, you can be fine while we’re ordering out or I’m cooking every night, but when I come in that kitchen, and you’re putting in work on that stove, that’s an aphrodisiac that hard to beat!

#31…Ladies, play to your strengths!! If you got a big, nicely-shaped booty, make sure you accentuate it. If you have nice full breasts, make sure they are always on display. HOWEVER…if you know your stomach is a problem area, why draw unnecessary attention to it? Know your limits, ladies! That outfit works for her, but not so much for you!

#32…LADIES, stop referring to your man as your ‘nigga’. Better yet, don’t refer to ANY black man (or woman) as a ‘nigga’. By definition, how can a good man be a nigga, or vice versa? Words have energy, and if you refer to your man as your ‘nigga’, that’s all he’ll ever be…and all you’ll ever be!

#33…LADIES, learn to make being fly look effortless. Sometimes a woman with sweats, a wife beater, sneakers and a fitted cap is 100 times more sexy than a woman who has tons of make-up, 8 inch heels, and not a hair outta place. You have to realize that being fly has less to do with how you look, but more to do with who you are. If you’re really fly, who gives a fuck about what you’re wearing?

#34…LADIES…smile please! Shitty attitudes aren’t sexy or cute! I know dudes can come with a lotta bullshit, but don’t let what someone else does to you affect the way you go about your day. Being beautiful doesn’t begin or end with how you look. It fundamentally reflects who you are, and how you share that beauty with the world, personifies who you really are. Be beautiful in everything you do!

#35…LADIES, if your heart isn’t into giving a blowjob, please just leave it alone! The thing that makes blowjobs so amazing is ENTHUSIASM!!! if you’re just going through the motions, not putting forth any real effort, acting like you’re tired or disinterested, just put the d*ck down and let dude go get himself off….which is probably what he’ll do once you’re done anyway 😉

#36..a man WON’T just fuck anything. Women use that tired excuse too much, to rationalize their poor choices of men. If your man will fuck anything, and he’s fuckin’ you, what does that make you? Men can be (and most are) faithful. You just happen to be fuckin’ ‘anything’ 😉

#37…LADIES, don’t use SEX as a bargaining chip. Believe it or not, your p*ssy is not as good as you think, and making your man meet your demands before you give him some is a bad strategy. P*ssy is only as good as the emotion connected to it. Men won’t cheat if they really love you, but good pussy gets cheated on all the time by the mere prospect of better pussy! 😉

#38…LADIES, listen to BFP!!! LOL I’m serious. I love black women too much to lie to you or tell you something that’s not in your best interest. I don’t have all the answers, but i do know how to avoid bullshit!

#39…LEARN MORE THAN YOU WERE TAUGHT! Our parents taught us what they knew, but everything they knew wasn’t right. Be it religion, sexuality, politics, etc, just because you were taught to believe it doesn’t mean as a free thinking adult there aren’t other things for you to learn. Will you learn something new to teach your children or will their knowledge be just as flawed as yours?

#40…there is nothing painful or destructive about love. It doesn’t hurt. It doesn’t make you cry tears of sorrow. It doesn’t make you compromise who you are to keep it around. It doesn’t ask of you anything that does not contribute to your growth and/or well-being. What love really is, it’s the absence of the need to even define what it is!

#41…your ass is too old for casual sex. once you leave high school, fuckin’, just to be fuckin’, is actually kinda lame. we all have urges, needs, desires, but if you’re laying up with someone and the ONLY reason is to get a nut, you’re literally, a fuckin fool. Place a premium on your pussy…find value in it!

#42…know what you DON’T KNOW! You don’t have all the answers. You don’t always know what he’s really thinking. You don’t…and you may never know! Sometimes it just about trial and error, learning people’s tendencies, rather than make presumptions about their motives. Men will share their hearts, but we always save a section that you’ll never experience and definitely never understand

#43…find a man who has a broad definition of manhood. As a husband and father, not only do I do the ‘man’ stuff like wash the car, cut the grass, etc…but I also help cook, i clean, give the kids a bath, basically WHATEVER my wife needs help with i’m willing to do. If your man has things he ‘won’t’ do, what will happen to the house or your children if you’re ever away? Choose well, ladies!

#44…LADIES, just because he says it, doesn’t make it true. Men don’t only tell you what they think you want to hear, they more often tell you what they think you NEED to hear. It doesn’t take long to determine who you are emotionally, and once we know we ‘create’ a person who can be compatible to who you are. The problem comes when you find out who we really are.

#45…develop a ‘dream’! Are you a dreamer? Do you envision your reality before it comes to fruition? What’s your biggest dream, and have you envisioned what it’s gonna look like? You need to be prepared to answer these questions, not just to find a good mate, but to become a good mate for someone.

#46….LADIES, be clear about you say you are, and about what you say you want! are you really who you say you are? Do you really want what you claim to want? Are you sure that the kind of person you say you are, and the kinda person you claim to want in you life are compatible? Too often who we say we are is inconsistent with who we show ourselves to be. Be who you are, all the time!

#47…LADIES, you CANNOT be the same person in a relationship that you were when you were single. If you want that life, you should have stayed single. Married or women in serious relationships, at the club all the time, is problematic. There’s nothing wrong with still having fun, but you have to redefine what fun means once you are trying to build something meaningful with someone

#48…LADIES, we’re all flawed, not just me! sometimes women complain about a man’s shortcomings, not recognizing her own. you can’t tell me i need to grow and you’re unwilling to acknowledge the areas you need to improve. relationships are mutual growth opportunities. your growth should facilitate mine, and vice versa. one person growing and the other being stagnant or regressing, will place strain on the relationship that often ends bad.

#49…LADIES, his dick is property of the relationship! LOL seriously, women and men both must be upfront, open and candid about their sexual needs. sex is a HUGE part of a relationship, and a lack of sex, or unreasonable demands for it can be problematic. if your man isn’t fuckin you right, or enough, he might, i said MIGHT, be fuckin someone else. or, he might be jacking off to porn online while you’re out of the house. or, her might just not be into your coochie, which is VERY troublesome. you have to get to the bottom of the issue. i mean, of course, sometimes our sexual urges are higher than our partner’s, but that needs to be known and discussed. one person cannot be holding all this pent up resentment because you haven’t made them cum in 6 months! sex isn’t all a relationship is about, but dammit, it better be in the top two!

#50…LADIES, ‘think’ and ‘believe’…in that order! emotions are good, and essential, but never allow how you ‘feel’ about someone change how you ‘think’ about that person. that’s why i don’t buy into the concept of ‘love’. love is something people say they feel, but rarely do they ‘think’ in regards to love. people in love have done some really dumb shit.

if you ‘think’ this person is good for you, based on logic and reason, then perhaps it’s safe to ‘believe’ this person might be the one. if all you do is ‘feel’ this person is right for you, haul ass! find someone you can not only believe in, but someone who makes you ‘think’ he might be the one!

A GREAT WOMAN by J.C. Mande

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So what makes a great woman?

 

For starters, a great woman doesn’t have to be Mother Teresa. I said a great woman, not a saintly woman. A great woman is someone who loves you, supports you, cooks, cleans, loves to have children, and is willing to put up with your character flaws. She is intelligent, savvy, warm-hearted, and completely unselfish. She should empower you and make you stronger. Looks are a bonus. You find a woman like this, get on your knees and propose.

       Be wary of women who only care about themselves, constantly voice their opinions, or put you down. You have enough enemies in your life, you don’t need one at home. You also don’t need a competitive woman interested in whoever has the fattest paycheck or biggest corner office; you have enough of these people in your professional life.

     Women who are vultures do nothing but destroy you as a man. Una brutta will drain your bank account and try to make you feel like a man with no testicoli . Why would you ever be attracted to a materialistic, shallow, waste of space like that (except as a mistress)?

    Sure, in « Our Thing, » every boss, capo , or button has a side mistress or even a side girlfriend, but without a good wife, you are always a weaker man. A man might stray from time to time, but only cafones don’t realize that the love of a great woman beats out the sexual prowess of some stripper. A great woman knows that her man will always return home.

One last point: Remember that you don’t find a great woman at every street corner. It takes a bit of luck. If you don’t find a great one, whoever you find should at least be a « good » wife.

 

So what’s a good wife?