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What the hell is going on in America? Didn’t they know a man was breathing & alive under the Tiger’s skin .A man, simply human, with his flaws & weaknesses. The hero because of whom I bought golf shoes back in 1997 is made of flesh & blood, with animal instinct. Let’s also remember he is tremendously rich & good looking which makes him a target for cheap & easy women. Ya all know what I mean by cheap. Women with a price tag , ready to be used as long as you pay the price.
SO WHAT’S THE FUSS REALLY? What if America had discovered he had a regular hidden mistress who had children from him? What would be the reactions? Would he still be qualified as a sex addict, or struck by chronically infidelities, a pervert, a fake, etc…
Hey America he is just a man. I admit that his modus operandi is quite shocking: one night stands or quick intense sex with Bimbo’s type women, who according to me really look alike, I can’t distinguish one from the other. One thing I noted is that they are the physical opposite of his very classy elegant blonde wife who looks so much like a GOOD GIRL. He chose them quite trashy, using them just for sex.
So, My question to puritans & hypocrites in American: What is the percentage of faithful married men in your country regardless of race, color , background or social status? Please bring out the figures & then we will criticize Tiger. What I am saying here is nobody’s perfect , the man should have protected his family , & avoid being caught, coz in my belief men that are not cheating in the statistics are those that do it the smart way & don’t get caught. As an African woman , I am not that shocked by the whole story, coz I belong to a society where men have several wives & this is regardless of their religion so don’t serve me the Muslim thingy. It is an African way of life & even an American one –you remember the Mormons in UTAH- Ok thanks for not pointing only at Africans. I don’t excuse TIGER, he could have been more careful & respectful towards his wife but I don’t see the relationship between his private life & his sponsors. HELLO!!!! Are the CEOs of those big sponsors are perfect males. So TIGER if you were in Dakar, Lagos , Libreville or Kinshasa , no one would have cared about those talkative bimbos looking for their 15minutes of fame, even if it means destroying your Home. Please Keep it in your pant for a while, if you can or move to Motherland.
I really enjoyed reading Reuben Abati making a very interesting analysis from an African Male point of view. Anyway Tiger you committed yourself to a Scandinavian woman in America so you have to behave yourself & think about the beautiful children you have there. I would have defended you if you were trying to get a second wife or as Al Sharpton said you were keeping the money in the community , but all I got to say now my dear TIGER is BEHAVE coz next time around they will just Lynch you for real.
P.S.: I don’t advocate cheating, but I am realistic , just don’t let me find out you are cheating on me. Keep the dream alive.

You don’t have the right to hate, stop homophobia in Africa!!!


     My human rights day digression

 Doing a bit of research on the situation of homosexuality in Africa , I came across some shocking data: it’s illegal in many countries to have a relationships  with someone from the same sex. Yes it is considered as a crime & severely punished in several african countries . I couldn’t believe it, especially when rapists are hardly punished in many of these same countries. People view that intolerance towards the LGBTI community as a way of respecting their religious beliefs whether Muslims or Christians. Who are you to judge your fellow human brother or sister because of his/her sexual orientation? Why do the same people who willfully practice adultery or fornication – sex out of wedlock- are eager to point a finger towards those whose only crime is to love differently. I have read several interesting articles on homosexuality in Africa,  & it will enlighten you a lot on that issue.

 The extreme reactions of President Yaya Jammeh of Gambia who threatened to behead gays in the Gambia as well as sack any homosexual serving in the army really shocked me. Wasn’t that a way of feeding some violent behavior towards these communities? From my understanding the Presidents’ primary motivation was to condone the sex tourism raging in the country which involves pedophiles which are different from homosexuals. But he went too far with his death threats. And I do condone the fact that beaches of Zanzibar , Mombasa or Banjul are favored by westerners for sexual tourism. But where are the laws banning such behaviors?  I haven’t heard any African Head of State stand firmly against that kind of abuses.The reaction of the Tanzanian doctor who  clearly stated that Aids was the result of an “un African lifestysle” blaming clearly homosexuals for the spreading of it & the recent developpement in Uganda have reactivated the debate on the radicalization towards homosexual community on our continent . Even to be homofriendly could be considered as a crime in Uganda.By the way , in recent studies it has been proved that heterosexual married are the most infected these last years in Africa  & guess who is bringing Aids home? Mr Homophobic for sure. Given all the issues we are facing in Africa, such as access to decent medical treatment, water & electricity as well as education, I don’t really see the relevance of legislating against basic human freedom of Loving who you want.

 I do respect your right to disagree or dislike the lifestyle of people who love differently from you but I don’t think it is being a good Muslim or a good Christian to openly support hateful behavior. How does that affect your life? You are just consumed with the fear of difference the same way KKK feared black people & the Nazi started exterminating all those who didn’t fit in their genetics development plans. Remember? Concentration camps were also holiday camps for black people & homosexuals . Just in case you forgot. I am a Muslim but i don’t take the right to judge my fellow people in God’s name. I can hear you thinking aloud  » Abomination » & honestly do you have the spiritual license to qualify what is a sin & what isn’t sinful? Human rights day you said. How many African human right activists are homophobic? You fight for the dignity of all human beings , even those who chose to love people from the same sex. Isn’t it? My cousin L. reacted saying «children should be spared by such people ». To be a homosexual is rarely conscious choice. Believe me! it’s not a disease nor a sickness. You just love differently. But the love is just the same. I just hate the sentence  » it’s not normal ». Is it the norm for a man to have kids & not take care of them? Is it normal for a woman to have a child from another man while married? Is it normal for an 8 year old to work instead of going to school? Does anything that pushes you out of your comfort zone should be labeled abnormal? You tell me! Our fight should be against all discriminations & not just the classic & easy Black against white. We Africans can be so hypocrites. None of those who stand against homosexuality stand against rapes. How many African lesbians have been raped to be given a lesson a contracted STD’s? Is that a normal reaction? We claim with no prior anthropological knowledge that Homosexuality is anti- African. Please, do your research before becoming a hate preacher. And bear in mind that I am not forcing you to accept anything, but at least don’t stigmatize or hate others just because they live differently from you. Would you stop loving your brother or sister or even your child if they made that choice of life? My conclusion is borrowed to my friend Raymond who simply said  » Live & let live ». So mind your own business, let’s concentrate on electricity & water shorter among other problems & give a break to people in love regardless of their sex.

© Naboulove.

Death penalty for gays? Uganda debates proposal

KAMPALA, Uganda — Proposed legislation would impose the death penalty for some gay Ugandans, and their family and friends could face up to seven years in jail if they fail to report them to authorities. Even landlords could be imprisoned for renting to homosexuals.
Gay rights activists say the bill, which has prompted growing international opposition, promotes hatred and could set back efforts to combat HIV/AIDS. They believe the bill is part of a continentwide backlash because Africa’s gay community is becoming more vocal.
« It’s a question of visibility, » said David Cato, who became an activist after he was beaten up four times, arrested twice, fired from his teaching job and outed in the press because he is gay. « When we come out and ask for our rights, they pass laws against us. »
The legislation has drawn global attention from activists across the spectrum of views on gay issues. The measure was proposed in Uganda following a visit by leaders of U.S. conservative Christian ministries that promote therapy for gays to become heterosexual. However, at least one of those leaders has denounced the bill, as have some other conservative and liberal Christians in the United States.
Gay rights activists say the legislation is likely to pass. But the bill is still being debated and could undergo changes before a vote, which has not yet been set.
The Ugandan legislation in its current form would mandate a death sentence for active homosexuals living with HIV or in cases of same-sex rape. « Serial offenders » also could face capital punishment, but the legislation does not define the term. Anyone convicted of a homosexual act faces life imprisonment.
Anyone who « aids, abets, counsels or procures another to engage of acts of homosexuality » faces seven years in prison if convicted. Landlords who rent rooms or homes to homosexuals also could get seven years and anyone with « religious, political, economic or social authority » who fails to report anyone violating the act faces three years.
Gay rights activists abroad are focusing on the legislation. A protest against the bill is planned for Thursday in London; protests were held last month in New York and Washington.
David Bahati, the legislator sponsoring the bill, said he was encouraging « constructive criticism » to improve the law, but insisted strict measures were necessary to stop homosexuals from « recruiting » schoolchildren.
« The youths in secondary schools copy everything from the Western world and America, » said high school teacher David Kisambira. « A good number of students have been converted into gays. We hear there are groups of people given money by some gay organizations in developed countries to recruit youth into gay activities. »
Uganda’s ethics minister, James Nsaba Buturo, said the death sentence clause would probably be reviewed but maintained the law was necessary to counter foreign influence. He said homosexuality « is not natural in Uganda, » a view echoed by some Ugandans.
« I feel that the bill is good and necessary, but I don’t think gays should be killed. They should be imprisoned for about a year and warned never to do it again. The family is in danger in Uganda because the rate at which vice is spreading is appalling, » said shopkeeper John Muwanguzi.
Uganda is not the only country considering anti-gay laws. Nigeria, where homosexuality is already punishable by imprisonment or death, is considering strengthening penalties for activities deemed to promote it. Burundi just banned same-sex relationships and Rwanda is considering it.
Homophobia is rife even in more tolerant African countries.
In Kenya, homosexuality is illegal but the government has acknowledged its existence by launching sexual orientation survey to improve health care. Nevertheless, the recent marriage of two Kenyan men in London caused outrage. The men’s families in Kenya were harassed by reporters and villagers.
In South Africa, the only African nation to recognize gay marriage, gangs carry out so-called « corrective » rapes on lesbians. A 19-year-old lesbian athlete was gang-raped, tortured and murdered in 2008.
Debate over the Ugandan bill follows a conference in Kampala earlier this year attended by American activists who consider same-gender relationships sinful, and believe gays and lesbians can become heterosexual through prayer and counseling. Author Don Schmierer and « sexual reorientation coach » Caleb Lee Brundidge took part; they did not respond to interview requests.
A third American who took part in the conference in Uganda, Scott Lively, said the bill has gone too far.
« I agree with the general goal but this law is far too harsh, » said Lively, a California-based preacher and author of « The Pink Swastika » and other books that advise parents how to « recruit-proof » their children from gays.
« Society should actively discourage all sex outside of marriage and that includes homosexuality … The family is under threat, » he said. Gay people « should not be parading around the streets, » he added.
Frank Mugisha, a gay Ugandan human rights activist, said the bill was so poorly worded that someone could be imprisoned for giving a hug.
« This bill is promoting hatred, » he said. « We’re turning Uganda into a police state. It will drive people to suicide. »
Buturo played down the influence of foreign evangelicals, saying the proposed legislation was an expression of popular outrage against « repugnant » practices. But activists like Cato argue anti-gay attitudes are a foreign import.
« In the beginning, when the missionaries brought religion, they said they were bringing love, » he said. « Instead they brought hate, through homophobia. »
Susan Timberlake, a senior adviser on human rights and law from UNAIDS, said such laws could hinder the fight against HIV/AIDS by driving people further underground. And activists also worry that the legislation could be used to blackmail or silence government critics.
Cato said he thinks the Ugandan bill will pass, perhaps in an altered form.
« It’s such a setback. But I hope we can overcome it, » he said. « I cannot believe this is happening in the 21st century. »
Associated Press Writer Katharine Houreld reported from Nairobi, Kenya.
Copyright © 2009 The Associated Press. All rights reserved.


In loving memories of those we have lost & to those who struggle everyday…

When in the mid 80’s the phenomenon of AIDS started getting an exposure, homosexuals have been unfairly stigmatized as possible vectors of the Sexually Transmitted Disease. The sad evolution of the figures proved when the infected populations widened up to women & children to the society’s bigot that even they could contract the “Gay disease”. Throughout the years, luckily, the appearance of tri therapy as well as prevention campaigns towards sensitive populations helped reduce the progress of the statistics. Unfortunately African Continent didn’t get as lucky as the rest of the world .When the rest of the planet was improving its prevalence rates as well as contamination statistics, vulnerable populations such as mothers & children got more & more infected to the point that some countries like Botswana lost a great percentage of its working forces sadly filling the country with more & more HIV positive orphans. In Botswana alone, 33% of the population is infected by the virus. Ben, a very close Zimbabwean friend told me he lost most of his teenage friends from AIDS. I will not go on with figures & stats are they are available all over the net & publications. Those statistics are the official face of AIDS, filling reports & hospitals. The face we see from afar as if she will never turn & look at us face to face. Personally my first physical encounter with Aids was in Nairobi in 1986 at the Hospital. I still have the image of that sick person that has been haunting me for the last 20 years. I was just a teenager, but I kept that souvenir as a testimony. But what I didn’t know is that I would lose some close friends from that deadly disease, & overall I have a very courageous Cameroonian friend who has survived all these years scrupulously taking his treatment. So this is the other face of AIDS I wanted to talk about, the face of our close friends who lost their husbands, wives or even children infected by HIV. For me,this face is also the smiling face of a strong beautiful young Lady of my acquaintances who has been infected by her late husband & lost one of her son. Her other son, aged 17 is infected like her. She does have the means to finance her treatment but it doesn’t mean she doesn’t deserve our compassion. Few weeks ago, she was invited to a party & one of those negative people who saw her with a handsome date decided she had to inform the Guy that Z. is infected with HIV. Did she have the right to involve herself in that? Especially that Z. always informs all her date of her health & proposes condoms before any sexual act. My point here is that AIDS has a face in your family or among your friends so stop doing as if it is just statistics. We as Africans are more than ever the number one actors in that tragedy. So stop discriminating, judging or condemning because tomorrow it could be closer to you than you thought. Step up in the plate & involve yourself in prevention or contribute to one’s treatment. Few condoms distributed to your home staff or financing a local NGO doesn’t cost much but it will sure make a difference.