Naboulove power series 4-Enlighten your life with the magic Power of smile

The Power of a Smile
The power of a gun can kill
and the power of Fire can Burn;
The power of wind can chill
and the power of the mind can learn
The power of anger can rage
inside until it tears you apart
But the Power of a Smile
especially yours can heal a frozen heart.
Tupac Shakur

“Your smile is the sexiest curve on your entire body” unknown

A smile is without any doubts the most powerful non verbal Communication tool between people. Even if you find yourself lost in Azerbaidjan, you should be able to sort your issues with a smile in the middle of your face –unless you wear a Burqa-. A customer care agent, a sales person , a waiter or waitress , a taxi driver , are judged more by the friendliness of their face than their actual compentencies. Before you judge the food , the technical work or even the quality of the goods, what drives you towards them is their smile. Yes we do judge the book by its cover in this case. A smile sends a positive message, conveys happiness & makes the scariest face approachable by enlightening the smiler’s face.

« It costs nothing, but creates much. It enriches those who receive, without impoverishing those who give. It happens in a flash and the memory of it sometimes lasts forever ». Dale Carnegie
It might sound trivial , basic & somewhat stupid but Smile has a magic effect over the receiver as well as the giver. Let’s see how it affects someone’s life when he/she decides to make the most of it. But here again a smile, must be genuine, heartfelt & positive in order to work wonders. Fake smiles will only worsen things so be real, be sincere.

  1. A silent but warm friendly welcome
  2. Beautifying treatment , it enlightens any dull face
  3.  Problem solver for a smile can turn a life around by sending a positive signal in a conflict
  4. Cheaper than a shrink, smiling is a sign of self-confidence & success . It will make you feel good so in doubt or sadness fake it until you feel it
  5. Smiling means sharing happiness around, happy to be with people & interact with them
  6. It’s free …in case you forgot & it has a very high Return on investment
  7. Smile is a trust factor
  8. It  is a charisma enhancer, as well as a positive Aura creator
  9. To smile is sexy & attractive … A sad face is unconsciously an ugly face…

10. Loving factor Mother Theresa says it better than me : “Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.”

So remember before drafting elaborate strategies about a change of life, make sure your smile quota is enough to affect powerfully & positively your destiny. Now smile & let the magic work in your life….
Lyrics of the song “Smile” by James Phillips and Geoffrey Parsons for Charlie Chaplin
Smile
Smile, though your heart is aching
Smile, even though it’s breaking
When there are clouds in the sky
you’ll get by
If you smile through your fear and sorrow
Smile and maybe tomorrow
You’ll see the sun come shining through for you

Light up your face with gladness
Hide every trace of sadness Although a tear may be ever so near
That’s the time you must keep on trying
Smile what’s the use of crying
You’ll find that life is still worthwhile
If you’ll just Smile

©Naboulove

Help! you have just been through an Emotional Rape.

Inspired by my Divalicious girls Kiki & Jamjam

So what is an emotional rape?

You are used, called when one is bored, re-used then redumped. You wipe tears, listen to heartbreaking stories of painful love issues (among others), support in times of sufferings & yet you are ignored or dumped in times of glory. How does it feel to be used & reused. Feeling like a tissue or a disposable item or even a sugar cane stick sucked til there is no more sugar in it. So this is it. That painful, useless feeling that only someone you thought loved you as a friend or sister did to you. Sometimes they are even your friend or your sister, cynically.

We humans are just soo human & sometimes so inhumans in our humanity. Raped because our emotions are penetrated , showing their deepest & genuine side. We care, sympathize sincerely, feel the pain, carry a friend’s burden, open our home doors with love & care , with trust & we agree to share one’s part of pain . We look for acts of soothing faith, take time to listen & advise, comfort & analyze. Acting half as a confessional , half as a confidant & often helping one regaining self confidence. Somehow your presence seems like a way to absolve the sin of who has been guilty of loving the wrong person or trusting who was not trustworthy. By showing empathy, we tend to become the mirror in which one sees himself as a forgivable being worthy of love. Our listening ears & lack of judgement towards our friends’ situation gives him/her a license to be not-so-perfect, leaving him/her burden less & free of being imperfect. Isn’t that called restoring a self esteem? But it hurts to just face silence or absence when we only expected  a little care in return, even just a thankful attitude for the least.  Instead of an arrogant self sufficient behavior until next time. Or sometimes a phony fake “ forgive me if I have done anything to you” if we make the mistake to complain. None of us being Angels , why not just accept the fact we misbehaved & just say : forgive me for acting so selfish. So how many times have you raped a friend emotionally ? And when were you last the victim of an emotional rape?
“Be empowered because you are powerful”
©
Naboulove