Naboulove power series: 2-Be N-POWERED BECAUSE YOU ARE POWER FULL

Ok Naboulove tagline is normally “Be empowered because you are powerful” I just changed the empowered by N-powered & powerful to power full . If I dared I would have written power filled…I dared. *SMILE

So what is “to empower” ? In the various definition I read it is described as “A management practice of sharing information, rewards, and power with employees “  or “the process of enabling or authorizing an individual to think, behave, take action, and control work” . From the UN’s Guidelines to Women’s Empowerment ,Women’s empowerment is :

-Sense OF Self Worth as a woman

-The right to choose

– Access to resources & opportunities

-Control over their own lives at home & within the society

-Influential in achieving social justice within their nations & at the international level

I love taking my grandmother as an example : if she managed to be a financially independent Fulani woman in the Senegal  40’s what could possibly stop me now? Just wondering… But you will be surprised by my views on empowerment. Yes a stay at home mum can be more empowered than a high executive lady Boss. Unlike what can be thought some women make that conscious choice & they still have a voice in their couple without feeling used & abused. With new technologies many women operate home based business & are achieving some sort of financial independence that help them sustain to their basic needs. But anyway beside that general notion of empowerment , I believe that we need to “emancipate ourselves from mental slavery” to be in a  full process of empowerment. So what makes one power -fully  power filled and N-POWERED?

1- Do you say No or Yes when you really feel it & want it or do you just say it to please the crowd? Next time you say yes or no just think before you speak. The choice is yours.

2- Don’t be afraid to show your vulnerability,  you are just being human with strengths & weaknesses . Cry without shame & let that pain Go & let God, he is in control.

3-  Expressing your pain & sorrow gives you a power , a sensitivity ,a humanity. Since you have had the strength to let God you become Fearless & totally Faithfull. There is so much power in faith.

4- Embrace change wherever it comes from, learn to integrate it as an opportunity to upgrade yourself physically, spiritually, Emotionally. So don’t be afraid when you are out of your comfort zone. What doesn’t kill you will make you stronger.

5-Say it out loud the way you believe it, fight for your truth, be real. Really real. Just try do things for yourself without seeking  approval. You were born for a mission so open your wings & start flying because you can fly.

6- Be your sisters’ keeper, lend a hand to other women. Don’t judge until you wear her shoes. Respect differences, you are not more powerful because you carry a designer bag , have a rich husband or hold a MBA. Our sisters who carry heavy loads from dawn to dusk to guaranty a loaf of bread to their kids or sell puff puffs on the road side are much more courageous than us. Be open to those who are different from you. Be humble enough to learn , stop looking down. Praise the successful, support the mislead & try to make constructive critics. Or STFU (shut the fuck up –yeah I said it). There is power in appreciation. It shows you love yourself enough to love others. Envy is just a manifestation of low self esteem & self hate. If you didn’t know now you do…

7-Try to  Connect positively around you. Share your smile, your sorrows, your joys, your pains , your cause, your knowledge, your blessings. Be generous with your emotions & your experience. Your mistakes might help somebody. Sharing is caring. Connecting is strengthening. Connect, Communicate, Care.

8- Cultivate your inner Harmony– by doing what you can with what you have: its called contentment & start chasing procrastination with action by doing what you have to do when you have to do it. Hmm reminder to self.*Sigh

9- Nurture Love love & love. Let people deal with the rest :their insecurities, negativity & their own luggage. Step up & feel secure to love.

10-Stop apologizing for being you. Just stand up because you are a Powerfully power filled  & powerful sister, mother, daughter, wife, friend, woman.

“Be N-powered Because you are Power Full”

©Naboulove

Naboulove Power series : 1-Shine with the power of Love.

« When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace » Jimi Hendrix

At the center of life is love the most powerful  tool we have at our disposal. The love cycle is unending fulfilling & rewarding.

Love cycle is  unending as it  knows no limit as long as we let it grow & flow within, it expands inside out  & turns into a positive brightening energy that will definitely be fulfilling for any being. Also, if you do what you love & learn to love what you do , you can only be fulfilled, the opposite of being frustrated. The following also  applies : “if you accept & love yourself enough then you can only feel good about who you are”. As a fulfilled person you can only give the best to others. Giving is rewarding, especially when it is done genuinely without expectations & somehow by planting the seeds of love, it will grow & come back from the universe as a flow of unending love.

Don’t you just feel wonderful when you focus on loving yourself then work on sharing only love with those around you?

So how do you turn a destructive feeling into love? Hard & challenging task indeed. I read a beautiful book of Leo Buscaglia who was sharing his love teachings with his students.

And I realized that society rules pushes us into a scheme: lwe are asked is to excel in life in what we do. We are happy as kids to come back with endless awards & as adults we collect degrees & medals, and we race up the ladder of success in order to be at the top. Finding a life partner & building a family in fear of continuity is our main goal in life.  Where is love? We hate school, the majority dislike their job & in the current social environment family is a failure. Am I an utopist thinking that « Peace & Love » is the only way forward? I am a realistic person , an average human person whose life was centered around success… It is just that looking closer at people who live a life centered around the Power of Love, I notice that they live a successful life.

My own recipe of the « power of love »

I have been quite an above average student, proud of my degrees & professional achievements but obviously I wasn’t really me until I listened to that inner voice who had so much to share. I was somewhat hiding who I was & what I loved just because I thought I was undressing myself before the world letting people read through my feelings, discover my vulnerability, explore my scars with me, and maybe see me as a weak person. I wasn’t brave enough to share my expression of love & life. I kept on writing my pains, joys & sorrows just for myself. And I knew that putting one word after the other was making me alive much more than my degrees, my ability to converse fluently in several language or even my corporate position. I gave enough credit to myself, decided to love my words & a friend of mine gave me a book I cherish more than anything. A classic book on writing in english. So like some find their expression of love in dancing, singing, accounting, or even physics or mathematics, I just found out that endorsing what I loved doing fearlessly was the purest expression of self love & love. I could hug the world with words, be at peace with myself & just shine from within letting go of pains & anger with just a pen & a paper.  I learnt forgiveness with writing, I realized the essence of love was much more than just 2 people holding hands together but one heart trying to heal permanently from the worlds’ constant emotional challenges. Let go of fear, let go off hurt, let go off anger , find a way to crystallize them into something you love doing that will let them out & turn them into love & maybe touch a soul with it. Reading, trying to grow more love in me has been a transforming experience & a certitude that everything I was looking for, that extraordinary love we are chasing all our life is a powerful force that we need to dig from within. Once we are in that process, we will face our hidden fears, re-open scars that haven’t totally healed & deal with our pains. I never said it was easy, it can even be frustrating because like everything else it requires patience, strength & work. But in the end ( even though it is a never ending process), you will find that little light inside of you, that powerful feeling  you filled with love & definitely shining around you. You will find the strength to love no matter what or at least you will make the effort to search that inner force. You will only love & appreciate the  beauty &  talent in others naturally. you will run away from hateful negative beings. And you will open your heart to people regardless of their age, origins, background , etc.. And you will learn to enjoy the richness behind each relationship. Some will find you self centered arrogant & narcissistic , which might even be the case but in the end what matters is your courage & ability to be just you.

 

« Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a

listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all

of which have the potential to turn a life around.”― Leo F. Buscaglia

Be empowered because you are powerful

©Naboulove