A Fatima, « Esclave a 11 ans »

Chaque week end je prends le temps de lire un ou deux livres et hier en ouvrant la 1ere page du livre témoignage « Fatima esclave a 11 ans » j’étais un peu blasée dans ma tête. Encore une histoire d’africaine maltraitée me suis je dit. Mais au fil de ma lecture, ligne après ligne, chaque mot énoncé , chaque phrase déchiffrée contant les souffrances vécues par Fatima me renvoyait a la douleur que pouvait représenter le fait de naître femme dans certains pays. Et j’ai vécu au long de ce récit le viol de Fatima a 11 ans vendue en mariage par sa tante paternelle,une maquerelle cupide et sans scrupule a un homme riche du moyen Orient. Moi a 11 ans je jouais avec mes amis, j’allais en vacances en Europe, j’allais au collège dans une école internatioNale en Cote d’Ivoire… Fatima si près et si loin de moi, mes larmes ont coulées en lisant ton histoire, secouée par l’injustice du destin qui a fait de toi l’esclave sexuelle d’un mari violent et méchant dans un pays étranger a l’age ou on rêve du Prince Charmant et ou même le premier baiser est Tabou. Fatima le monde t’a force a devenir femme avant l’heure. J’ai vécu dans ma chair tes grossesses a l’ l’age ou j’ecumais les « boums » avec mes copains et ou ma plus grande revolte a été d’essayer d’aller en boite a tout prix. Pendant que je dansais le break dance tu enfantais ,4eme epouse d’un bourreau sans compassion. Tu m’as ouvert les yeux Fatima a la souffrance de nos soeurs qui pour leurs parents, le corps n’est qu’une marchandise, un bien a troquer en échange d’une fortune éphémère. Une vie brisee contre quelques billets. J’ai la nausée en pensant a tout ce que tu as du subir, révoltée mais impuissante. Je t’ai suivi du Niger au moyen Orient , du Nigeria a l’Allemagne , du Togo au Senegal et enfin de la Cote d’Ivoire a la France. J’ai pleuré la mort de ton fils Moussa avec toi. J’ai vécu ton combat pour récupérer tes enfants, ta générosité envers les autres et surtout j’ai admire et respecte ta force et ta ténacité , mère courage que le destin a finit par récompenser. Et ton récit Fatima, ta lutte pour retrouver ta dignité et ton intégrité de femme et de mère, m’ont profondément touchée, car nos destins sont parallèles ( nous avons le même age aujourd’hui) et j’aurai pu être née toi. Mais je suis née Peule mais choyé, aimée et presqu’adulee par une mère a l’enfance triste mais plus heureuse que la tienne qui s’est battu pour que jamais ses filles n’ait @ épouser un homme leur gré et nous a donne une vie merveilleuse. Ton histoire poignante a bouleversée ma conscience d’enfant gâtée et m’a rappelé qu’il y a des femmes et des fillettes tout près de nous qui ont besoin de nos voix pour que cesse ce trafic ignoble. Merci de m’avoir réveillé de la douce torpeur de ma vie bourgeoise pour me rappeler la réalité cinglante infligée a de nombreuses filles d’Afrique.
CopyrigHt Naboulove

The Bite Of Envy

Ooh yesss you hate her for driving that Range Rover, you dislike her for carrying so carelessly her Hermes bag and wearing with so much elegance that diamond watch and the Chopard Jewelry set you always dreamt of. With your insane feminine curiosity, you are just wondering: Is she an escort sleeping with half of the government, did she inherit or is she just a hard working lucky bitch? you don’t want to really know what the truth is, isn’t it?  Curiously, the only thing you want to  acknowledge is how her presence makes you feel invaluable, transparent, non existing, anyway, to make a long story short, you are simply  envious!  And honestly  you got it all wrong gal! this is not the way to go. Envy is hateful, painful , self destructive and useless. Can’t you feel it? Can’t you see u are hating for free because the sister has no time for negative vibes around her?
It is time for you to slap yourself in the face and admit that you are totally wrong? Discharge yourself from all that emotional poison and mind your own business. As a matter of fact if you have felt that way for even a second in presence of a glittery rich hot looking babe then you have serious personal issues to deal with;  Yes madam envious bitch, it is not about her or others but only about  you. Why do you project your insecurities or others? It is you I am talking to. You who always look and want  what   others possess but you never appreciate what you are blessed with. Yes Lady, You who always wishes for what others have but never realize how much you have.


You keep on complaining about everything not realizing that the only satisfied souls are those who are 6 feet under. Stop the self-hate and your self destruction process coz all you are badmouthing about are your own lacks and shortcomings. Ooh you didn’t realize it! If you minded your own business, you would be aware of it. It is so easy to close your eyes to your failures and dissect others’. Just for the sake of envy. Hell no! It is time for you to take control of your destiny by minding your own business. You won’t know their lives until you walk in their shoes. You won’t have what they have until you do what they did to have it so relax and live your own life.
©Naboulove

Dear Nafissatou,

I am soo sorry for you as a sister in wonanhood, an african sister and a fulani sister. I feel your pain, your shame and your hate. And my words are how I express my wrath. Thanks for having raised your voice to condemn the one who raped your dignity and your integrity because when u left your village as a widow with your 2 year old daughter, you were still a teenager . With your willpower and faith in Allah the almighty you made it to America to give ur child a better life. My dear sister u hv spoken for the million women in the world who keep their voices low in front of their oppressors and for that you will be abundantly rewarded. Today my sister U might be regretting it because raised as a fulani you were not interested in any publicity but just looking for justice. We your sisters from around the world we support you morally & emotionally because it is about us in this story. Us abused, raped , beaten and silenced because of the lack of rights. Thanks Nafissatou for having proven to the world that a woman’s body is her temple and that No man had the right to disrespect it by force without having to pay the price. Say Alhamdullilahi my sister because if it had happened in the heart of Africa no one would have given you credit. Alhamdllilahi for you are a hard working honest woman living in America where no one can play or disrespects a womans body without being accountable for it.
It is about your pain my sister, it is about your sutura, your dignity. Close your ears Nafissatou , because it is only about you and your emotions, nobody else. So keep your faith and hope, because we women of the world are behind you, supporting you with our prayers, our words, our strenght. United we stand my sister. It is not about colors like america tend to love disgressing towards racial issues. It is about womanhood and the choice to say No even to a husband in a marital bed. It is about womanhood beaten each day in the lstreets of the world by men stronger and hateful. It is about Motherhood, a strong woman u are Nafissatou raised as a Muslim and with the fulani values, and proudly working to take care of your daughter.
So Nafissatou you are neither lonely or alone because we are all here with you. Because it is all about you and nobody else.
Jaraama

Djelika Sow
Aka
Nabou Fall
Aka Naboulove
Proud granddaughter of Bigue Diallo

Few truths about love…

1- Love CAN only be declined in present tense I love, I am in love, I am loving,  it is a now emotion, not tomorrow, not yesterday!
2-To love each other doesn’t mean to agree blindly on everything, it is More about completing each other …
3-You might hurt the one you love, as much as he might hurt you so remember then that love is about forgiveness & compassion
4- Love is a gift, a miracle, a therapy, so enjoy the glow on your face, the butterflies in your stomach and your  bright smile while it lasts ;
5-love is not ego based but purpose led so your  attitude will determine your altitude and your intents should match your expectations
6-love is blind so beware of the eyes filters through which you see the relationship and your beloved.
7-Love grows and evolves through various phases and intensities, move through the waves of love .
8-Love has nothing to do with fear, so free yourself and let it be, take one step  at a  time & release the phobias inadequately attached

9-Love is heart centre and unconditional not self-centered and conditional , so listen to your heart

10-Love is a natural flow , so if you have to fight for it, use the question mark. ?

11-Love doesn’t hurt , it is not being love in return that hurts..so learn to move on , heal , and keep your love potential for who will love you in return.

12-love can be addictive and addictions can be destructive, so love yourself more than you will love anyone else.it is free and will make you feel good.

©Naboulove