Why I Hate Valentine!

I know you are frowning and despising me for the title but how clearer could I express my feelings? Why should I leave my romantic life in the hands of American marketers who might have just created this day to boost consumerism after the slow month of January. Why should I express my love, offer presents or have a special dinner outing with my beloved only on that specific day. And by the way who is that saint? By the way I am muslim. No comments.
I always thought that cupid was the symbol of love, but nobody knows his birth date? Laugh out loud! Why wouldn’t it be the 1st of March or the 25th of May or better everyday of our life? Why are we so thirsty for events and spending that even in the most remote places of Africa, people give Valentine a value it doesn’t have? Or does that show our incapacity to gather around any African symbol or tradition whilst we are always eager on jumping on anything coming from the others – Europeans & Americans-. This is another topic though, let me refocus. Being from a francophone African country, I found out about the Valentine craze first in the US and then in English speaking African countries like Ghana. But here again can’t you show love and appreciation all year long? That celebration day started spreading in French speaking African countries in the 90’s,but mainly, for business reasons. As a marketer myself, I used to offer 2 for 1 mobile set packages during that period, in order to boost my mobile subscribers’ base. Mea Culpa.
Who is that Saint who decided that his day was the love day? I believed cupid was in charge there. Once upon a time, I was myself dragged in the swirl of the Lovers’ day: expecting a gift, a dinner, a special treat. And not getting it the way I planned it in my head would make me feel miserable. And one day I just wondered why? Why should I feel upset about not being able to live my dream scenario, when I get chocolates, flowers, presents once in a while unexpectedly from the man in my life. I realized that Valentine gift and planned romance is not worth the drama, especially when you get them all year long. So, Saint Valentine, tell me please why shouldn’t I expect to feel cherished from January 1st to December 31st ? Why not? So whenever you feel hurt or alone on a V day remember that it is just because some brilliant marketing gurus decided it. Once again we fall in the trap of mimicry and we have the choice to free ourselves from it.
If , indeed, you want to take advantage of all the delicious menus set out in all the restaurants of the world during that day, do it because you feel like it, you want to but not because you feel like you have to. And in the process of regaining my (and your ) mental freedom, I hereby declare every single day of the year, lovers’ day !Show him/her your love, tell him/her how much you care, give/expect a special treat, share, hug, kiss each others just ANY DAY. You may not agree with me but enough of the brainwash imposing on me which day I should show love and appreciation. My heart is far too big to accept that limit of a single day per annum. So instead of cursing your beloved because he didn’t « make » your V day memorable, remember all the moments of bliss spent together and still to be spent in the future.
Happy Love year.

9 réflexions sur « Why I Hate Valentine! »

  1. I’m really not a Valentine’s guy….just make some people feel even more worthless when they don’t have a soulmate.

  2. Nice write up but i beg to differ ,V Day was never set aside as the only day to show, people have only misinterpreted it to be so.

    Just like we have WORLD AIDS DAY, WORLD FOOD DAY, OR WORLD HAND WASH DAY ( Forgive me if i didn’t get that right). V Day is a day set aside to remind a lot of us out there that we ought to give a little LOVE to someone out there and believe me Nabou, a alot of us needs that reminder, because in the hustling and bustling many people forget to appreciate next person.

    So Nabou my sister just relax and do have a fabulous Valentine’s Day.

    1. LOOOL Ugomma I wished we Africans put as much effort and attention to AIDS, FOOD SHORTAGE etc. as we do to Valentine. And I just feel that once more we fail to create our own social refences always ready to catch the train of others. Why not have a love day then based on traditional african divinities such as OSUN (Yoruba Goddess of love), that would be as pagan as the one we praise. True but we have the right to reclaim that love & appreciation anytime and not just today because some people decided it. Let’s be true to ourselves then and get involved to the many causes which have their day knowing that we africans are the most affected by AIDS, HUNGER, etc. and believe me if we did we could turn around many things in our continents withoiut always having to wait. LOL. Am just sick of being dictated when to be reminded to give or receive love by others. Enjoy a Love year. And turn around to your loved one and tell them as much as you can how much you care be it today or another day. Xx

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