A Courageous Woman

To Bigue Diallo my grandmother I never met.

Once a friend of mine was describing someone as a courageous woman:  » she has buses and she is doing her business  » hmmmm is that so courageous! Everyday on my way to work I meet courageous mothers carrying a load of bread on their head with 2 small kids hanging by their sides. The lady selling a banana on a table or puff puff to feed her family. Those who dare walking miles to sell their fruits just to maintain their dignity.Not beggers. We certainly are courageous but how far could we walk if we had no chauffeur driven cars under the African heat? Yesterday, in my office, no electricity and the generator was down. All i could do is complain of the heat. Me courageous? Had to climb the 5 floors but gave my computer to someone to carry. More spoilt than strong we are for sure. Investigate in ur family background, remember ur Mum or Grandma. I know for a fact that my Grandmother was a business woman in the the 1940’s’and had a. Milk shop by the US embassy in Dakar. She was walking with her load and sell her Milk like a fulani warrior from dawn to dusk. She has had 3 husbands meaning she wouldn’t take BS « yeah I said it » from anyone! Yes I am proud of being the eldest granddaughter alive of this strong Courageous woman named Bigue Diallo and I carry her legcy everywhere I go. My grand mother had 6 kids from her 3 different husbands.And her daughters are strong determined mothers who raised us to face life realities.So to our grand mothers,Mothers, aunties who sell,walk,carry,cook,pound, in order to give their children education, I dedicate this post.Everytime you see yourself as a « courageous woman » look around you,there is a lady sitting by the roadside trying to sell a fruit,a cake,a bread to earn the few dollars needed to keep her head up.


NABOU By Abide Bebe

Ame guerrière
Ame peule
Fidèle serviteur des rois
De la pensée panafricaine
Tu te dresses tel un étendard
Pour présenter de fière manière
Les sept couleurs qui déterminent ta Terre
Tu as défini les lignes directives
De l’amour pour la cause
Tu es allée partout avec pour seule identité
Ton amour pour ta Terre Mère
En effet elle ne connaît aucune frontière
Et ici
Ta différence en rajoutes à ton charme.

A Nabou Fall

Woman in Islam

In the Islamic society the woman has an honored position and, beside her legal and civil rights, enjoys special respect, love, affection and the gentle feelings which she deserves most. Is she not the compassionate mother, the beloved wife and the affectionate daughter? The best expression of this reality is provided by the following verses from the Glorious Qur’an.»
« And of His signs is this: He created mates for you from yourselves that you may find rest in them, and He ordained between you love and mercy. Most surely there are signs in this for a people who reflect. » Holy Qur’an (30: 21) « …And treat them (women) kindly… » Holy Qur’an (4: 19) « …And they (women) have rights similar to those (of men) over them in a just manner… » Holy Qur’an (2: 228) « When you have divorced women, and they have reached their prescribed term, then either retain them in honour or release them in kindness… » Holy Qur’an (2: 231) The Traditions of the Prophet, like the Qur’an, also lay emphasis on the honor and status of the woman and grants her a respectable place in society. When a Tradition speaks of a woman and her social position, it surrounds her with a frame of love, endearment and affection, especially when it speaks of the mother, the wife and the daughter. The Messenger of Allah (s.a.w.), addressing the Muslims on the occasion of the farewell Pilgrimage warned them against the values which he feared would be neglected after him, and referred to woman as one of the important issues about whom he said: « Observe your duty to Allah in respect to the women, and recommend them to be well treated. »
Therefore, Islam speaks respectfully of woman- the mother, the wife, the daughter, the sister, endears her and takes care of her, stressing her being worthy of affection, mercy and generosity. It recommends woman before recommending man. It regards the love of woman as a sign of faith.

how to Improve your couple’s life

“Fiqh of Love”

1-Great relationships don’t just happen; they are created. You have to work at it.

2-If your job takes all of your best energy, your marriage will suffer.

3-One of the greatest gifts you can give your spouse is your own happiness.

4-It is possible to love and hate someone at the same time.

5-When you complain about your spouse to your friends, remember that their feedback can be distorted.

6-The only rules in your marriage are those you both choose to agree with.

7-It is not conflict that destroys marriage; it is the cold, smoldering resentment that you hold for a long time.

8-It’s not what you’ve got, it’s what you do with what you have.

9-If you think you are too good for your spouse, think again.

10-Growing up in a happy household doesn’t ensure a happy marriage, or vice versa.

11-It’s never too late to repair damaged trust.

12-The real issue is usually not the one you are arguing about.

13-Love isn’t just a feeling; it is expressed through our actions.

14-Expectations set us up for disappointment and resentment.

15-Arguments cannot be avoided, but destructive arguments can be avoided.

16-One of the greatest gifts you can give your spouse is focused attention.

17-Even people with happy marriages sometimes worry that they married the wrong person.

18-Your spouse cannot rescue you from unhappiness, but they can help you rescue yourself.

19-The cost of a lie is far greater than any advantage you gain from speaking it.

20-Your opinion is not necessarily the truth.

21-Trust takes years to establish and moments to destroy.

22-Guilt-tripping won’t get you what you really want.

23-Don’t neglect your friends.

24-If you think, “You are not the person I married,” you are probably right.

25-Resisting the temptation to prove your point will win you a lot of points.
Source (EIslam)

Coup de Foudre Amical…

Et pourtant, je n’aurais jamais cru qu’à 35 passées on puisse encore se faire des amies. Elle , un nom sur la page d’un réseau social, une personalité pleine de joie, plein d’amour à donner, un coeur grand comme le monde, du talent, de la beauté. Nous avions une foule d’amis en commun et grâce à un imposteur nous avons conversés, échangés, ris , partagés une foultitude d’idées et de secrets. Spontanément. Je l’ai adopté , coup de foudre amical, confirmé par notre prremière rencontre. Comme si je l’avais connu toute ma vie, un regard vrai, une gentillesse rare , un grain de folie. Ma soeur de coeur comme d’autres que j’aime tant . Qui a dit que les femmes ne s’aiment pas entre elles. Elle m’a ouvert son coeur, sa porte et donné un peu d’elle et elle a même partagée , ses frères avec moi. Sans hésitation je me suis livrée moi pourtant bavarde mais peu extravertie. Alors ce jour ou tu m’as dit dit que ce mal te rongeait. J’avoue que j’ai eu peur, puis j’ai pleuré puis prié et j’ai compris que tu es tellement vivante et gaie que ce n’est pas la maladie qui t’aura. Tu es plus forte que la Maladie et tu le sais. Car tu sais aimer, rire et partager avec un coeur entier. Je t’aime ma soeurette de Baham qui m’a intronisé virtuellement Bamiléké.Je suis avec toi, de loin de près , en paroles , en prières, en pensées.

A Carminoush