10 words to become a Sexpert.

You are pretty, elegant, trendy, classy, fashionable,smart, educated,well read, etC. etc. But if that will attract THE MAN, I can assure you that it won’t make him stay if you only count on your countless near to perfection qualities… To keep the spark alive you need more than your Chanel Bags , your Alphadi dress & your MBA. YOU NEED A SOLID SEXPERTISE. Yes as simple & basic as that. Don ‘t let him go look for excitement outside your bed, coz sister , you can do it. Remember when you were preparing that degree ? you were doing research on the topic right? Same here. I did a little (practical ) research & I summarized it in 10 words:

1-FREE . Yes Mrs Perfect freee yourself , ease your mind, feel FREE, in order to be receptive…

2-FEEL.Once you are loose, relaxed & FREE, your 5 senses are in a giving & receiving state of mind.Can you FEEL it?

3-TOUCH.Refine your caress by using your fingertips,the palm of your hand (just the palm), your nails (gently please), your lips, your tongue, your skin… Be Creative & touch him differently.. He is loving it.

4-TASTE. Don’t be afraid to taste his lips, skin,& any other part you want to try…Use your tongue as if you were licking an ice cream or sucking a lollypop.Apply to his ears ,his fingers,Kiss him everywhere you can think of …Innovate.Even your teeth used gently will create a thrilling experience.

5-SMELL.  Some scents are more attractive than others so exhale a perfume of sensuality , bath in a perfumed body soap, rub with a sexy oil, & bewitch him with a sensuous body odour. Remember, you are a delicacy to your lover, so drive him crazy even before he touches you with a sweet scent.

6-SHAKE. You are a not a piece of metal , so shake & rotate, move those hips . It’s a booty dance, right, left, up, down. Just Make it move. The arbic way , the african way, the Cuban style, The Jamaican rythm, Just MOVE it girl.But make sure you are in phase with your partner leading the dance.Be involved , You are a team.

7-SQUEEZE. Have you heard of Kegel exercises? No? Google it. Bing it. Yahoo it. But just do it. 50 a day will make it & learn how to tighten your pelvic muscles when he is inside of you, I garantee that he will worship you…

8-PLAY. Think outside of the box. There is a myth spread that African men like it classic. False. They are open to new things, even though they will pretend , so just do your thing & surprise him . Dont be shy. Try the chocolate dip, the candy G string, the blindfold, etc. Just introduce innovation one by one in the bedroom & turn him on…

9-LIGHT.No party in the total dark. Turn the lights on… may it be candle lights, or else no sex in the dark please. He loves to see you naked, moaning & enjoying yourself so LIGHTS ON girls…

10-TALK. Say it as it feels (only allowed when it’s good though), express yourself, tell him how much he is a good lover. Shout,scream ,let the joy be expressed…

Waiting for your feedback sisters. SO be naugnty…


Monday, November 10, 2008

Who is going to dry my tears when i listen to « Malaika »?

Who is going to please my heart when i hear « Pata Pata »?

 Mama Afrika you were a star, a mother, an activist,

and overall a freedom fighter.

I remember the first time we met,years ago ,

 we went to keur Samba with a common friend and Nina Simone..

.I was so impressed that i could hardly talk,

 Just emotions moving me upside down…

OOOh Mama the loss is great to Afrika. ©

.Remember Manhattan Brothers and your tour to America

 When most of the continent was still colonized

 When they took away ur citizenship

 Because you were claiming for a fair South Africa,

 You found refuge in America Mama Afrika

 Endorsing the cause of the your beloved Stokely Carmichael

Once again you realized

America was not the freedom Nation it was claiming to be.

Once again on the road back to your roots

 Mama Afrika you became a Guinean,

A sister Nation but not your homeland.

.Mama you gave us a Grammy

 In the late fifties putting African Music

On the map of the world music.

Thanks Mama Afrika

.It has never been easy to be a woman of beliefs,

 Torn between the love of your land

 And the hatred for what they had called « Apartheid »..

Mama Afrika you have wandered from one nation to another

Denied the right to go back home,

As a mother you have suffered the loss of your daughter

…But in spite of all the mourning  and suffering

You went through your life,

 You always had your head up,

 Your voice ready to sing a song of freedom.

I know your greatest Joy was the day apartheid was banned

 ….FREE at LAST.

Rest in Peace MAMA AFRIKA…

You are unforgettable.

Nakupenda Yo

©Nabou Fall 2008

My name is WOMAN…

I wrote this one evening almost 2 years ago…

  Tuesday, November 25, 2008 at 11:56pm 

My name is WOMAN,

 Mother, Sister, Feeder, Bearer

 Call me any name

 But without Me there is no You.

Silently , raped when they fight for power,

Mutilated in the name of ancient customs

Sold as slave by my parents for few days of food supply!

Victim of anger, victim of hunger!

My name is Maria

Lliving in luxury,

Emotionally abused

 By the man I chose to spend my life with « for better and the worst »,

Downgraded, Beaten, Abused ,

but still fronting like a lady with my jewelries and my high class car,

Mirage of life filled with pain…

Where do you go when you depend on your torturers?

 My name is Furaha,

 Chased by rebels,

Beaten by soldiers,

Raped by all of them;

I am a widow, a mother mourning my children,

An orphan : they killed my family and  annihilated my humanity!

Where can you flee when your so called protectors use your body to ease their stress?

My name is Bintou,

I lost a piece of my feminity,

Cut for the sake of outdated traditions,

Almost died from an infection,

Never understood why some women say it’s so good to make love!

Where can I hide when my torturer is my grandmother?

 My name is Natalya,

I ran away from the loss of equality

 and the harshness of capitalism,

with the man I thought was my savior,

my lover, my husband to be;

And now here I am

A modern slave trading sex for money,

my body as a cash machine in the streets of Paris

 Threatened to death day & night by my so called lover!

He took away my dignity and my identity!

 My name is Daughter, Sister, Mother, Wife,

But my tears are not shed and my flesh is so sore.

You can call me slave, bitch, whore, thing

but without me there is no You!

My name is Woman

I don’t want you to forget that

Sometimes, somewhere ,

Maybe next door my life is a Tragedy!

To my sisters around the world:

 Beaten, tortured, threatened, raped, chained to prostitution or slavery,

don’t give up because your voices are heard!

To my brothers love your Woman,

Mother, Daughter, Sister

 Because without Her there is no You!

From me, to all the assaulted women of the world.

©Nabou Fall 2008

Inspiring Quotes for my sisters

« Far away there in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them, but I can look up and see their beauty, believe in them, and try to follow where they lead. »
—Louisa May Alcott

« Cautious, careful people always casting about to preserve their reputation or social standards never can bring about reform. Those who are really in earnest are willing to be anything or nothing in the world’s estimation, and publicly and privately, in season and out, avow their sympathies with despised ideas and their advocates, and bear the consequences. »
—Susan B. Anthony

« The day will come when men will recognize woman as his peer, not only at the fireside, but in councils of the nation. Then, and not until then, will there be the perfect comradeship, the ideal union between the sexes that shall result in the highest development of the race. »
—Susan B. Anthony

« We ask justice, we ask equality, we ask that all the civil and political rights that belong to citizens of the United States, be guaranteed to us and our daughters forever. »
—Susan B. Anthony, Declaration of Rights for Women, July 1876

« There never will be complete equality until women themselves help to make laws and elect lawmakers. »
—Susan B. Anthony

« In passing, also, I would like to say that the first time Adam had a chance he laid the blame on a woman. »
—Nancy Astor
(British Politician)

« For what is done or learned by one class of women becomes, by virtue of their common womanhood, the property of all women. »
—Elizabeth Blackwell

(The first woman in the U.S. to become a physician)

« We stand now where two roads diverge. But unlike the roads in Robert Frost’s familiar poem, they are not equally fair. The road we have long been traveling is deceptively easy, a smooth superhighway on which we progress with great speed, but at its end lies disaster. The other fork of the road—the one « less traveled by »—offers our last, our only chance to reach a destination that assures the preservation of the earth. »
— Rachel Carson

« The family unit plays a critical role in our society and in the training of the generation to come. »
—Sandra Day O’Connor

« We’ve chosen the path to equality, don’t let them turn us around. »
—Geraldine Ferraro
(The first woman to be nominated as Vice President of the United States)

« You can do one of two things; just shut up, which is something I don’t find easy, or learn an awful lot very fast, which is what I tried to do. »
—Jane Fonda

  « If you have knowledge, let others light their candles in it. »
— Margaret Fuller

  « My address is like my shoes. It travels with me. I abide where there is a fight against wrong. »
—Mother Jones

« Don’t compromise yourself. You are all you’ve got. »
—Janis Joplin

« Many persons have a wrong idea of what constitutes true happiness. It is not attained through self-gratification but through fidelity to a worthy purpose. »
—Helen Keller

« If we are to achieve a richer culture, rich in contrasting values, we must recognize the whole gamut of human potentialities, and so weave a less arbitrary social fabric, one in which each diverse gift will find a fitting place. »
—Margaret Mead

« Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has. » —Margaret Mead

« I can honestly say that I was never affected by the question of the success of an undertaking. If I felt it was the right thing to do, I was for it regardless of the possible outcome. »
—Golda Meir

« Something which we think is impossible now is not impossible in another decade. »
Constance Baker Motley
(First Black Woman in the U.S. to become a Federal Judge)

« I think the key is for women not to set any limits. »
— Martina Navratilova

« People think at the end of the day that a man is the only answer [to fulfillment]. Actually a job is better for me. »
—Princess Diana

« Remember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. »
—Eleanor Roosevelt

« I think it’s very important for everyone in America to realize right now the state of our country, not just on this issue but on a lot of issues, that it is time to get active again. People have just sat back and just sort of said, oh, let somebody else do it for a long time, and we’re seeing what’s happening to the country, even freedom of speech. It’s not going well. So I think this is a real opportunity for people to see, yes, if you do get out and you do get active, there are other people there. You just have to seek them out. »
—Mary Steenburgen

« In my heart, I think a woman has two choices: either she’s a feminist or a masochist. »
—Gloria Steinem

« The first problem for all of us, men and women, is not to learn, but to unlearn. »
—Gloria Steinem

« I am also very proud to be a liberal. Why is that so terrible these days? The liberals were liberators—they fought slavery, fought for women to have the right to vote, fought against Hitler, Stalin, fought to end segregation, fought to end apartheid. Liberals put an end to child labor and they gave us the five day work week! What’s to be ashamed of? »
—Barbra Streisand

« We still live in a world in which a significant fraction of people, including women, believe that a woman belongs and wants to belong exclusively in the home. »
—Rosalyn Sussman
(Nobel Prize-winning medical physicist)

« You can tell how high a society is by how much of its garbage is recycled. »
—Dhyani Ywahoo
(Native American)

« It’s so clear that you have to cherish everyone. I think that’s what I get from these older black women, that every soul is to be cherished, that every flower is to bloom. »
—Alice Walker

« I’ve learned from experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends on our dispositions and not on our circumstances. »
—Martha Washington

« As a woman I have no country. As a woman my country is the whole world. »
—Virginia Woolf


Pretty women wonder where my secret lies
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing of my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them,
They say they still can’t see.
I say
It’s in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
The palm of my hand,
The need of my care,
‘Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me. 

from And Still I Rise by Maya Angelou
copyright © 1978 by Maya Angelou.