Bitchiness and gossip has no place in my circle… by Aminata Kamara



Bitchiness and gossip has no place in my circle….

 I am struggling to understand why anyone would want to make another feel bad or put another person down. I really don’t have time for idle gossip or any form of bitchiness. To me its negative energy, anything negative, I run a mile from. This trait in women (not all women I might add) is deeply unattractive and very unsettling. I just wish there was a way of restoring calm and order: a way to disincline women from being so bitchy. Much of this bitchiness is not voiced in the open – it is behind closed doors and whispered ever so quietly.

Some of it is conducted in a somewhat more vigorous and hateful manner. Instead of coming together and forming lasting friendships, some women are two-faced to one another; inevitably this creates vast differences in the future. What good does bitchiness provide? Surely it merely increases tensions between people? Men are by no means virtuous by comparison – certainly not – but, from my knowledge, they tend to discuss their differences out loud or to solve them in a rather more physical manner. In essence: there is very little facade in the steps taken by men to resolve their differences.

I care for women very much. Let’s live and let live. Let us recognise and appreciate each other’s differences, let us celebrate our uniqueness, lets us share our joys and miseries together. You don’t have to like every woman, but you can show some pride and respect by not gossiping about them. If you don’t like the way they behave, if you can’t tell them to their face, don’t do it behind their backs. I believe in karma, ‘what goes around comes around’. I have a policy I follow, if I can’t say something to your face, I won’t say it behind your back.

Next time you think of gossiping or talking about another behind their back, remember “Who gossips with you will gossip of you” Irish proverb.

I’d love to hear what people have to say on this topic. Hopefully we will be able to cultivate some sort of mature debate on the issue.

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