Le kunyaza ou le secret de l’orgasme au féminin

 Le kunyaza ou le secret de l’orgasme au féminin

Nsekuye Bizimana dévoile une technique sexuelle ancestrale qu’il juge révolutionnaire

 

Des experts affirment que 70% des femmes n’atteignent pas l’orgasme avec la seule pénétration vaginale. Pour qu’elles prennent enfin du plaisir dans l’intimité, Nsekuye Bizimana a décidé de faire découvrir aux hommes une technique sexuelle africaine : le kunyaza. Dans Le secret de l’amour à l’africaine, il révèle comment se pratique cette méthode ancestrale répandue en Afrique Centrale et de l’Est

 

Nsekuye Bizimana est convaincu que l’Afrique détient le secret de l’orgasme féminin. Ce passionné de sexualité africaine a étudié des années durant une technique ancestrale employée dans son Rwanda natal, ainsi qu’au Burundi, dans l’Est de la République Démocratique du Congo et dans l’Ouest de l’Ouganda et de la Tanzanie. Transmis de façon orale, l’art du « kunyaza », comme on l’appelle en terre rwandaise, serait si efficace que la plupart des femmes pourraient avoir de multiples orgasmes et même une éjaculation. Nsekuye Bizimana donne aux hommes les détails pratiques du kunyaza – illustrations à l’appui – dans Le secret de l’amour à l’africaine, un ouvrage publié en Allemagne, où il est installé, en France et bientôt aux Etats-Unis. Nsekuye Bizimana, à la tête d’un institut de recherches dédié au kunyaza, estime que son livre permettra de vulgariser la « caresse magique » à travers le monde. Les hommes ne devraient alors plus avoir d’excuse pour ne pas combler les femmes, dont 70%, selon certains experts, n’atteignent pas le septième ciel via la seule pénétration vaginale.

Afrik.com : Comment se pratique le kunyaza ?
Nsekuye Bizimana :
La méthode est basée sur une stimulation intense du sexe de la femme. L’homme tapote avec le bout de son pénis la région ou la partie interne du sexe de sa partenaire en faisant des mouvements verticaux ou horizontaux. La façon la plus simple est de se concentrer sur la région du clitoris et de tapoter de gauche à droite. Si le tapotement est douloureux, on peut mettre de la salive ou attendre que le sexe de la femme se lubrifie. Quand l’homme se débrouille bien, la femme peut avoir un orgasme au bout de cinq minutes.

Afrik.com : Cinq minutes de « tapotement », ce doit être fatiguant pour le poignet de l’homme, non ?
Nsekuye Bizimana :
Si l’homme est fatigué, la femme peut prendre le relais. La femme peut aussi exposer ce que l’on appelle le vestibule pour que l’homme atteigne les parties les plus sensibles, dont la prostate de la femme, située derrière le point U (méat urinaire, ndlr). A propos, c´est plus fatiguant pour l´homme d´employer le cunnilingus que le kunyaza ! La nuque et les mâchoires se fatiguent très vite…

Afrik.com : Vous expliquez que le kunyaza se révèle aussi très efficace pour les femmes excisées…
Nsekuye Bizimana :
En général, c’est une petite partie du clitoris qui est coupée. La partie interne est préservée, de même que le méat urinaire, qui est une zone très érogène. Donc on peut essayer de satisfaire ces femmes. On pense souvent qu’elles ne peuvent pas jouir or, elles le peuvent ! J’ai interrogé des femmes excisées qui m’ont dit que la méthode fonctionnait pour elles.

Afrik.com : Le kunyaza serait aussi utile en cas de problèmes d’érection…
Nsekuye Bizimana :
Lorsque les hommes ont un léger problème d’impuissance, ils peuvent tout de même stimuler le sexe de la femme. Et, à force de tapoter, le pénis de l’homme peut même durcir et permettre une pénétration. Je connais plusieurs hommes qui m’ont dit que cette méthode avait été efficace.

Afrik.com : Selon vous, le kunyaza pourrait devenir aussi populaire que le French kiss. Comment ça ?
Nsekuye Bizimana :
Quand j’étais jeune, le French kiss était peu répandu. Seule une minorité l’utilisait. Mais, actuellement, la plupart des africains utilisent le French kiss. Tout comme les Européens qui, il y a cent ans, n’embrassaient pas de cette façon à grande échelle. C’est la preuve que, quand une méthode a des bienfaits, elle se répand ! Et comme je suis convaincu que le kunyaza est une très belle méthode, je suis sûr qu’il se répandra. Avec la sortie l’année prochaine de la version anglaise, les gens vont l’essayer, trouver qu’il est bien et le bouche à oreille fera le reste. On pratique d’ailleurs déjà le kunyaza en Namibie où les gens, au contact des Ougandais, ont bien accepté la technique.

Afrik.com : Lors de vos ateliers sur le kunyaza, vous indiquez que ce sont surtout des Blancs qui font le déplacement. Comment l’expliquez-vous ?
Nsekuye Bizimana :
Je ne connais pas exactement les causes qui font que les Africains viennent peu, je ne peux que spéculer. A mon avis, de ce que j’observe en Allemagne, beaucoup d’Africains ne s’intéressent pas aux discussions ou aux conférences politiques. On les retrouve plutôt à la messe en train de prier. C’est ce que j’ai constaté. Mais je pense que ça va changer car, depuis la version française du livre, beaucoup de gens m’ont écrit pour recevoir le livre.

Afrik.com : Avez-vous eu des retours de sexologues quant à votre ouvrage ?
Nsekuye Bizimana :
Il faut s´attendre à des réactions quand les sexologues auront lu le livre parce que j´ai comparé les méthodes qu´ils prônent au kunyaza. Les sexologues en général n’ont pas réellement progressé sur le sujet de l’orgasme féminin, sinon les gens n’auraient pas tant de problèmes. Je pense que ce que je propose aidera les gens.

Afrik.com : Quelle a été la réaction de votre maison d’édition avant la publication ?
Nsekuye Bizimana :
Avant de publier mon livre, on m´a dit qu´on était très impressionné et qu´on trouvait que je donnais des conseils très aidant. Ma maison d´édition a déjà publié plusieurs livres sur la sexualité, notamment des livres du célèbre sexologue français Gérard Leleu. C´est-à-dire que c´est une maison compétente en la matière.

Afrik.com : Connaissez-vous d’autres méthodes africaines efficaces pour donner du plaisir aux femmes ?
Nsekuye Bizimana :
Non, sinon j’aurais aussi écrit là-dessus !

Afrik.com : Diriez-vous que votre ouvrage est féministe ?
Nsekuye Bizimana :
Ce n’est pas un livre militant en tant que tel. Mais un problème, celui de l’insatisfaction sexuelle des femmes, se pose et j’essaye d’y donner une solution. J’ai simplement envie que les femmes se réjouissent aussi quand elles font l’amour.

Afrik.com : Vous envisagez de coordonner une étude sur le kunyaza à l’Institut de recherche sur la sexualité et la médecine sexuelle d’Allemagne pour prouver l’efficacité de cette méthode. Avez-vous les financements ?
Nsekuye Bizimana :
En Allemagne, les travaux privilégiés sont ceux sur les maladies sexuelles ou les problèmes psychologiques des pédophiles ou des violeurs, par exemple. Ils ne connaissent pas bien les techniques sexuelles mais ça va venir. Ca prendra du temps pour que le livre suscite de l’intérêt mais je pense que les Français vont s’y intéresser. Je rechercherai alors des financements auprès d’eux.

« Le secret l’amour à l’africaine » de Nsekuye Bizimana
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Kunyaza, the secret to female orgasm

Kunyaza, the secret to female orgasm

Nsekuye Bizimana throws light on a revolutionary ancestral sexual practice

  

   

 

Experts confirm that 70% of women do not achieve orgasm from vaginal penetration alone. To help them achieve sexual satisfaction, Nsekuye Bizimana has decided to bring an african ancestral practice, known as “kunyaza”, to light. In “Le secret de l’amour à l’africaine » [the secret of african lovemaking] he reveals this ancestral sexual practice from the Central and Eastern African regions.

Nsekuye Bizimana is persuaded that Africa holds the key to female sexual orgasm. His passion for African sexuality has led him to the study of an ancestral sexual practice in his homeland, Rwanda, as well as Burundi, Eastern parts of Democratic Republic of Congo as well as the western parts of both Uganda and Tanzania. Having survived by virtue of oral tradition, “Kunyaza” is said to be so effective that most women do not only experience multiple orgasms but also ejaculation. Nsekuye Bizimana gives a detailed account of Kunyaza with illustrations in his book Le secret de l’amour à l’africaine published in Germany where he is based and soon available in the United States. Nsekuya Bizimana, also the head of a kunyaza research institute, hopes that his book will shed more light on the “magical caress” around the world. Men have now no excuse to escape the total satisfaction of their female partners, 70% of whom – according to research – do not attain orgasm only by vaginal penetration.

Afrik.com : Tell us about kunyaza

Nsekuye Bizimana : The method involves an intense stimulation of the woman’s sexual organ. The man taps the internal area of his partner’s vagina with the tip of his penis either with vertical or horizontal movements. The male partner should concentrate on the clitoris area whilst tapping from left to right. Should the tapping prove painful, the area should be lubricated or wait until the vagina gets lubricated naturally. If the male partner does this well, his female partner should e able to get an orgasm in about five minutes.

Afrik.com : five minutes of « tapping », this should put some strain on the man’s wrist…

Nsekuye Bizimana : Both partners may take turns. The female partner can expose the vestibule to enable her male partner to access the most sensitive areas, including the woman’s protate, located behind the G point [urinary meatus]. By the way, it is more demanding for the man to perform cunnilingus than kunyaza ! The nape and the jaws tire easily.

Afrik.com : You also claim that Kunyaza can prove effective on excised women…

Nsekuye Bizimana : In most circumstances, only a small part of the female clitoris is excised. The internal part is preserved, as well as the urinary meatus, which is a very erogenous zone. So these women could be satisfied. We have the tendency of thinking that they cannot be satisfied sexually, whereas they can ! I have interviewed excised women who have confirmed that the kunyaza method works for them.

Afrik.com : kunyaza is also effective in cases of erectile problems…

Nsekuye Bizimana : Men suffering from mild erectile problems can still stimulate the woman’s sexual organ. And also by virtue of tapping, the man’s penis could stiffen and make penetration possible. I have come across several men who have also confirmed the effectiveness of this method.

Afrik.com : You claim that kunyaza could become as popular as the French kiss ?

Nsekuye Bizimana : When i was young, the French kiss was not very known. Only a few people practised it. But in recent times, most Africans practice the French kiss. About a hundred years ago, the French kiss was practised by a few persons even in Europe. This is prove that a method which produces good results spreads to the four corners of the earth. And as i am convinced that kunyaza is a good method, it is my belief that it will spread. With the release of the English edition next year (2009), more people will try and appreciate it, while word of mouth will do the rest. Kunyaza is also known and accepted in Namibia through an initial contact with Ugandans.

Afrik.com : You indicated that your kunyaza workshops are mostly attended by Europeans. How do you explain this trend?

Nsekuye Bizimana : I do not know exactly why Africans do not really participate in these workshops, i can only speculate. In my opinion, from what i have observed in Germany, many Africans are not interested in discussions nor political conferences. They are, more often than not, rather found at church praying. That is what i have observed. But i think that this will change as many people have ordered the book since the release of the French version.

Afrik.com : Any feedback from sex therapists since the release of your book ?

Nsekuye Bizimana : I am awaiting reactions from sex therapists particularly since i compared some of their recommended methods with kunyaza. Sex therapists have not really made any headway in the area of female orgasm. I think my book will help people more.

Afrik.com : What was your publisher’s reaction prior to the book’s publication ?

Nsekuye Bizimana : They were impressed and found my advice very helpful. My publishers have already published several books on sexuality, such as books from the famous French therapist, Gérard Leleu. This is to say that they are masters in the field.

Afrik.com : Besides kunyaza, do you know other effective African methods that could enhance female pleasure ?

Nsekuye Bizimana : No. If i did i would have written about it.

Afrik.com : Is your work feminist ?

Nsekuye Bizimana : It does not advocate activism per se, but rather a problem, that of female sexual satisfaction which i try to answer. I simply want women to climax when they make love.

Afrik.com : You would like to conduct a kunyaza study at the Institute for Sexology and Sexual Medicine in Germany to prove the effectiveness of this method. How do you plan to finance this project ?

Nsekuye Bizimana : An example of research works given priority in Germany include sexual diseases or psychological problems associated with paedophiles or rapists. They do not really know sexual methods but they will get there. It will take some time for the book to arouse general interest there but i think the French will take an immediate liking to it. I will therefore be looking forward to some financial support from the French.

Interview conducted by Habibou Bangré and Translated by Theophilus O’donkor

Did Michael Jackson Love You? By Breathtakingly Fine Possibilities

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« The one contradiction in the black community is that there are no contradictions. » Bobby E. Wright, PhD

I love Michael Jackson…love him!

… but I do not even like contradiction, which is why this causes me so much pain.

Michael Jackson is, as Berry Gordy referred to him, ‘the greatest entertainer that ever lived’, but he was one of the most self-destructive people of African descent in the history of the world.

…but black people adore him.

Why?

As much as black people continue to love Michael Jackson it is damn near impossible to find any evidence that he reciprocated that same love for black people. Perhaps the only black person heloved was his mother, Katherine, and the black person he loved least was undoubtedly himself.
So, where does that leave all the black people in between?

If Mike was just a regular dude, who did all the things he did to himself physically, became the father to three children that anyone with the slightest degree of common sense knows thatCANNOT be his children genetically, what would the vast majority of black people think of him?
You may ask, ‘how do you know those are not his kids?’. Well, would a person who has gone to the lengths he has use his kinky hair-full nose-brown skinned sperm to create children who would look like the person he has spent the last 30 years trying to not be?

That’s how I know…

Some might say that even when they look at the 2009 Michael Jackson they still saw the little boy from the 70s, but how can you really?

Does it not make you even the little bit uncomfortable that a person you love doesn’t see the same beauty in you, that you saw in him?

Again, I love Michael Jackson as much as anyone, but does my love for him in some way compromise the love I have for myself?

I know we as black people love to rationale our contradictions, and some of you might say that you love who was inside and that his physical self doesn’t matter to you, but it mattered so much to him. And if you’re honest with yourself, it matters to you too.

Each morning we brush our teeth, comb our hair, iron our clothes, take a shower, and all sorts of other things to make our physical selves appealing, but somehow we deny the relevance of our physical selves when it fits our needs. It’s just like that bullshit line that people of all races use, ‘I don’t see color’…which is the most insulting phrase ever uttered in the english language.

Of course you see race, the very fact that you say you don’t means that you do. Race is not something to be dismissed, it’s something that people acknowledge about a person, and respect about a person. I always ask people who say they don’t see race if they believe in God. And most indicate they do, and then I ask whether or not they believe God makes mistakes, and of course they say they don’t think God makes mistakes. Well, the next logical statement from is that then God must have a divine reason for making you the color/race you are.

Who are we to disaffirm what the Creator intended for us to become? If you love your God, how can you find fault in the divinity of that God’s most perfect creation?

Again, I love Michael Jackson.

And more than that, I understand Michael Jackson suffered from severe mental illness that rendered him incapable of appreciating who he was most fundamentally. People say that when he looked in the mirror he saw his father Joe, whom he said abused him, but did he not see even the smallest piece of his mother, Katherine, in that same mirror?

All of Michael’s fans and supporters are quick to point out that Michael loved all people, but the facts tell us that his love for black people was ‘complicated’, at best. As a human being, I love all of humanity, but I think it’s clear that most people, naturally, have a deeper affinity and connection with people who share the same culture, history, and heritage. That’s a naturally occuring phenomenon throughout nature. it doesn’t mean you love person of other races any less, it just means that you acknowledge that you do love people of your own race/culture.

However, Michael has made the transition to the realm of the ancestors, so asking those questions of him seem less important than asking questions to those of us who are still here breathing.

1. Who do you see when you look in that mirror?

2. How does it make you feel to love a man whose love for you was at best ‘complicated’.

3. Do we make excuses for people we love that we would not dare make for people we don’t share the same connection with? michael_jackson2

Again, I love Michael Jackson…but I love myself so much more.

“LIGHT MY FIRE”: Sudan’s sex and beauty secret

 

December 10, 2007 (KHARTOUM) —

When the punishing Sudanese heat cools in late afternoon, Hiba Jiha strips naked, wraps herself in a blanket and sits on top of a burning hole in the ground to smoke her skin to silky perfection.

Aged 26 and getting married, Hiba will straddle the perfumed embers in the courtyard of her house for 15 minutes to an hour, every other day for a month before her wedding night in keeping with age-old Sudanese tradition.

Living in a simple house with her sister’s family in the town of Om Bada, just outside Khartoum, she can ill afford the luxury spa and sauna treatments in the booming Sudanese capital.

Besides, this is her second marriage and she already has two children. Hiba is not a virgin and her new businessman husband will be denied what Sudanese men believe is their right and pleasure in deflowering their wife.

In war-torn, miserably poor and traditional Sudan, men and women whisper that far more than smoothing the skin, the slow burning « dukhan » practice tightens a woman’s vagina, driving her husband wild.

Hamad Mohamed, the manager of an upmarket Khartoum restaurant, raves about the sex appeal of coming home to find his wife of 22 years, mother to his six children, smelling of the special wood called « talih. »

« It makes the ladies very relaxed. When she uses the dukhan, I feel she needs me a lot. When I come home and find her smelling like that, it means I’m going to have something special tonight, » he grins over a cappuccino.

« It’s like a salad as an appetiser before a meal. Dukhan works exactly like that, to whet your appetite sexually, » adds Mohamed, also lauding the burning wood that he says accords medicinal benefits for rheumatism.

In the West, where pampered women splurge thousands of dollars for a surgeon to reattach hymens and tighten vaginas as a « gift » to the men in their lives, the natural remedy is a fraction of the price in Sudan.

Ahmed Zaki Yussef chops and sells wood 12 hours a day, seven days a week, sitting in the shade next to a busy road in Khartoum’s twin city of Omdurman, where women in colourful saris step out of jeeps to haggle over the firewood.

Yussef says women spend between 15 and 50 Sudanese pounds (7.5 dollars and 25 dollars) on a single purchase, carefully examining the wood before handing them to a boy to bag up as their husbands keep watch.

« Sudanese women who live in the villages really depend on it for perfume and lotions. But it’s private. That’s why you do it when you’re married. It’s only for your husband, » says 23-year-old university teaching assistant Anwar Hassan.

But she and her mother quash talk of silky skin and special scent, insisting in urgent low undertones that the only reason a woman sits over burning wood for up to two hours at a time is for her husband’s intimate sexual pleasure.

« Forty days after they have a child, a woman waits until everything heals then she does the dukhan. It tightens things up. It’s a very important issue. It’s just like having a bath, » says Anwar, her mother nodding in agreement.

Childbirth slackens a vagina, causing old-fashioned « ignorant » Sudanese men to start grumbling that their wife is past her peak and look for the ultimate humiliation — a more nubile younger wife, they say.

Anwar and her mother Zainab say that like leather, the skin tightens when exposed to slow, low-impact heat. « It’s just like cheese with wine, » says Anwar, trying to draw a parallel between the dukhan in Sudan and Europe.

But the tradition has begun to divide the wealthy elite of Khartoum, made rich by the profits of oil and a construction boom, and the poor, illiterate masses who populate the rest of the country.

Professional women often avoid dukhan, so closely is the smell associated with intimacy that they say it creates the wrong impression for an educated, respectable female striving for equality in traditional Islamic society.

Zainab, married to a retired ambassador and dressed in traditional Sudanese sari, steers clear of the practice, for example, when she leaves her smart suburban villa for her job in architecture.

Hospital doctor Ammar Abbas goes further, dismissing the dukhan as a superstition with no basis in science that demeans self-respecting women as sex objects for their husband.

« I am Sudanese and I hate this habit. The woman should respect herself in relations between men and women, » says Abbas. Prolonged exposure can see women scold or burn themselves, or develop hypersensitivity, he claims.

Most women in Sudan are also circumcised, which in its most severe form, means a young girl has all external genitalia removed and her vaginal opening stitched closed, leaving just a small opening, Abbas said.

Back in the courtyard, its door bolted to keep out prying eyes, Hiba sits on a cushion and plaited straw next to the hole, as smoke billows up through the blanket, and she and her sisters giggle about hair removal and weight loss. (AFP)

 Photo: Piles of the special aromatic wood called « talih », used by Sudanese women in the traditional beauty treatment called the « dukhan », are stacked in front of Sudanese traders at a market in Khartoum’s twin city of Omdurman, Dec 5, 2007. (AFP)SudanTalih

50 Things Men Wish Women Knew

1. Express yourself. It makes us proud, even if someone thinks you’re wrong.

2. You look hot in running shoes and shorts. And that top thingy with the stripes.

3. Bare, tan shoulders are underrated.

4. If you think I’m speeding now, you should see me drive when you’re not in the car.

5. If you’re truly interested in us, don’t play hard to get.

6. Shopping is a chore, not an activity.

7. When I screw up, go ahead and tell me—once.

8. No question need ever be asked through a closed bathroom door if I’m inside. I love you less with each syllable you utter.

9. I’m hot for you, not your sister or your friend or your coworker.

10. My guy friends. Not only are they not negotiable, they’re your best sign that I’m not a whack job.

11. Don’t be afraid to ditch the makeup. Natural is sexier.

12. Leave the eyebrows alone. Plucked ain’t pretty.

13. You can have sex with us any time you want. Seriously.

14. When the game is on, we will pay attention to you if you’re nice about it. Bark, and we shut down.

15. I don’t ask for directions because I’m just happy to be driving. Anywhere.

16. Masturbation is merely practice for the big game. Encourage it.

17. We crave hugs and hand-holding too. And no, it doesn’t always have to lead to sex.

18. But you can have sex with us any time you want. Did we mention that?

19. There’s no better sound in the world than you, having an orgasm.

20. Though the exhaust note of a Porsche Boxster is pretty damn fine, too.

21. I just may lie to make you feel good. Don’t be angry about this. You really weren’t looking for the truth anyway.

22. When you get angry over some stupid little pointless thing, I question your intelligence.

23. You’re really bad at faking it.

24. If I offer my help while you’re getting ready, it means you’re late.

25. Never ask me to pick out your outfit. (See above.) I will invariably get it wrong and make us even more late.

26. Giving me two or three choices, however, can be fun. Assuming you will change outfits in front of me. Slowly.

27. Err on the side of hot; I love to show you off.

28. Unless we’re meeting my parents.

29. When you call us at work « just to chat, » we’re not really listening; we’re checking our e-mail.

30. Spring means baseball and skirts. Doesn’t need to be a mini-skirt; it’s been a long winter

31. Chicks who drink beer are hot. Better yet: chicks who drink beer and watch the game. Better still: chicks who buy us a beer during the game.

32. We don’t mind being told we look good. Just don’t call it a « cute outfit. »

33. We love ponytails.

34. Being good in bed means a) enthusiasm; b) a sense of humor; and sometimes c) patience.

35. The first time? We’re as nervous as you are.

36. A random unexpected grope is always welcome, even in public. Especially in public.

37. Make us laugh and we’ll want to hang around.

38. Yes, I laugh really loud around the guys. And I always will, so deal.

39. Sure, men stereotypically like to solve a woman’s problems. But a woman who solves her own while we watch? Instant erection.

40. You can pick the movie, but have a reason.

41. Do not expect to have a conversation via text message unless you use the words « naked » and « waiting. »

42. Sometimes we wonder why any woman would want to be with us, much less someone as amazing as you. So, thanks.

43. Anytime you cook for us, we’re happy.

44. If you can hit a golf ball 150 yards, we just might fall in love.

45. No, I don’t remember what he said next. Or she. Or anybody, for that matter. I’m a guy, not a tape recorder.

46. We love you even more because you know we need to go out with the guys once in a while.

47. And we love it when you hang with us guys, too.

48. We have a keen sense of imminent danger. It sounds like, « Do you think she’s pretty? »

49. Don’t rely on us for keeping you up on the news.

50. Never say, « I know you better than you know yourself. » Nobody does.

Source: http://www.menshealth.com/mhlists/things_men_want_from_women/index.php#ixzz0J0XWZ7Nq&C