Times have changed
I receive a lot of e-mail from women asking the same question Stacy poses. So I finally decided to give my take on the subject. But before I begin, allow me to stress that I’m not passing judgment on women, nor am I saying that women shouldn’t enjoy themselves sexually. Hey, I’m enjoying the abundant supply of women too. The following explains how most men feel, and why some of us can’t handle the truth.
An object that has value is worshipped, respected, cherished, and shared with very few deserving people. As soon as you start sharing that object with anyone and without care, the object starts to lose value. The more people use the object, the more it depreciates and the less bargaining power it has: this is a plain psychological fact of life.
Most women don’t realize the importance men place on a woman’s promiscuity. Women think that because men don’t care about how many women they’ve slept with, they won’t care about how many men their woman has slept with. But the reality is that most men (those looking for a serious relationship and not a one-night stand) do place great value on a woman’s sexual restraint.
There was a time when many women cherished their bodies much like a sacred temple. Where only a noble man , one who respected and loved her, had access to her body.
But over time, it seems that women have failed to realize the important role their sexuality plays in finding a long-term mate. Thanks to the women’s movement, women are so busy trying to compete with men — including in the sex department — that they fail to realize the consequences of their actions.
Today, it seems that women are the ones who are collecting notches on their Prada belts by giving their bodies away too easily. But if women themselves don’t value their bodies like they used to, why should men?
Some women will argue that if men have the right to sleep around, so should women. But I ask only one question: If women adamantly believe this, then why is it that when faced with the question, « How many men have you slept with? », most women who have slept around with truckloads of men always lie?
Some women will rationalize that they must do so because men can’t handle the truth. But if this is the case, why don’t women let men decide for themselves if they can or can’t handle it? Why do women need to lie to protect men’s egos? I think women lie to protect themselves — rather than men — because if it’s not shame or regret that’s making you hold your tongue, then the potentially dire consequences of the truth surely are.
The power of a woman’s sexuality
Women have sexual propositions directly or indirectly thrown at them every single day. Because of this abundant supply of penis, women have the final decision to act on or ignore such propositions, and the men looking for long-term mates fear this.
Men, on the other hand, don’t necessarily have women on bended knee with diamond rings and gold bracelets, so they pretty much take it when they can. Maybe this is one of the reasons why men, unlike women, find it so hard to resist the advancements of the opposite sex.
You see, men know how hard it is to control themselves. Think about it for a moment: how many times have you heard men say, « Gee, if I was a woman, I’d be getting laid every day? »
Men recognize the power of a woman’s sexuality. In turn, men appreciate and place great value on women who can control themselves and demonstrate a certain degree of sexual discipline because most men certainly can’t.
If a woman can show men that she is honest, loyal, trustworthy, and sexually responsible, then she will have the most powerful weapon to attract men. If, on the other hand, a woman abuses her sexual power with many men, it will backfire on her. Unfortunately, women only realize this after they’ve had their « women’s movement fun, » when it’s too late and the only choice they have is to lie.
it’s not too late… is it?
Women need to realize that their bodies are temples — or at least men like to think so — and that they shouldn’t be shared with any Tom, Dick or Harry. Once a woman realizes this, three things will happen:
1. She’ll appreciate herself a lot more, and in turn the man will gain more respect for her and realize that he has a valuable treasure.
2. The man who had to work hard and commit in order to bed a woman will appreciate her more. After all, time was invested in her.
3. The sex will be brought to a whole new passionate level when she finally makes love to the man who fought for her — by being patient.
Today too many people — including myself — place too much importance on sex. This explains why so many marriages don’t work. People base their whole relationship on sex and don’t realize that when the passion disappears, and the honeymoon phase dies down, there is nothing left but each other’s flaws.