IS IT INFIDELITY OR INSECURITY? by Syl Juxon Smith

WHY DO MEN AND WOMEN FALL OUT OF LOVE AND BECOME WORST ENEMIES LIKE THEY NEVER K EACH OTHER

 BEFORE? IS IT INFIDELITY OR INSECURITY!!!!!

Deeply in a relationship, you stated to get comfortable with each other. You start sharing details and secrets of your life. Neither of you have been scared off yet, so you take that as a good sign. Then in the midst of one of those wonderful evening the conversation turns to people you have previously gone out with. Your date goes first and mentions a couple of people. Their assessment is for the most part is fair and balanced. They talk about the good and bad in a calm rational manner. Too bad the same cannot be said for you. When it gets to be your turn, you go off. You rip into your ex like there is no tomorrow. They were this that and the other thing; none of it good. Your ex was hateful, spiteful, deceitful and then you really said how you felt. And no during the middle of your tirade you did not imagine that you have created the path to your breakup. After it was over a certain coldness and distance started to creep in. Going off regardless of what happened in your previous relationship only makes you look bad. Let’s face it your date does not know your ex. They only have your word to go on. If all they hear is anger and bitterness that reflects on you more than your ex. There was no guarantee that you two are going to stay together. So if things did not work out are you going to go around trashing them? Regardless of how rotten your ex was the best thing you can do is keep it to yourself. If the subject comes up stay calm and detached. Be truthful but keep it as brief as possible and avoid descriptions that are too colorful. As much as possible, let the past remain where it is.

2 réflexions sur “ IS IT INFIDELITY OR INSECURITY? by Syl Juxon Smith ”

  1. I can sincerely relate to some of the vital point raised. Once upon a time, I was 22yrs, l close up on a dead beef relationship, without reflecting on my own contribution during my union together with my ex…I blindly went into another one which could have been a successful one. If only l new my offence back then, , healed, and manage to zip up, l’ would have avoid the cheep sell out. I thank God l’m more mature now. Sly Juxon Smith you have taken the bull by the horn, U have excellently torch light on issues that affect mostly single people & relationships as whole…it’s really encouraging to read from a man and understand how men think. Nabolus you surely rock, more grease to your elbow. Thank you for taking it upon yourself to set up a pick me up site which provid much openess Bravo!!!!!

  2. Hmm ….ripe words Syl. I can imagine the guy thinking « hell no, she aint all that either, better watchout. » lol …and the conversation runs cold! ENOUGH said ladies!!!

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